Hi,
Modeling is central to NLP.
Actually, all the models and skills of NLP are the results of modeling. Modeling is the study of how others doing something. Then everyone can learn from the models.
Is all kinds of modeling NLP Modeling?
No!
There should be 4 key elements of NLP Modeling:
1. There is a structure of thinking behind the actions performed. i.e. the actions are not at random.
2. The process/pattern of acting can be identified and described.
3. The suspension of any taxonomic and/or analytic attempt to understand consciously the model during the assimilation stage of modeling and until the modeler can successfully reproduce the process. (This element is from John Grinder, co-founder of NLP)
4. If the modeling is accurate, people learning from the model can achieve a similar level of performance, provided that he/she meets certain essential requirements and under similar context. For example, if it is a jumping model of a 6.5 feet person with professional equipment, a 4.5 feet person without any equipment might not be able to achieve similar performance even he/she is adopting such model.
NLP Modeling is not superior than other forms of modeling, like Analytic Modeling. But NLP is about NLP Modeling!
Keith
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Learning from Life #101 - #105
Hi,
Please enjoy our next five learning from life:
101. Money is money and nothing more.
102. To live a longer life, we can do it by living it fully!
103. There are always choices, even though it seems to be choiceless.
104. Fear, Anger & Guilt is our greatest enemies!
105. If you can have rapport with yourself, you can have rapport with anyone else.
Keith
Please enjoy our next five learning from life:
101. Money is money and nothing more.
102. To live a longer life, we can do it by living it fully!
103. There are always choices, even though it seems to be choiceless.
104. Fear, Anger & Guilt is our greatest enemies!
105. If you can have rapport with yourself, you can have rapport with anyone else.
Keith
Personal Development: Jungian Individuation Process
Hi,
This article is specially written for the participants of the Mental Symbology Program. I really thank them for having so much toleration to my presenting of these difficult to understand, but not really immediately useful material!
Thanks!!!
What is Jung's Individuation? Different people studying Jung can have different explanations. Jung provided us his theory which can be one of the best Personal Development Process.
We always talk about Personal Development, but do we have a way to do so? If yes, what is your way?
Many of our so-called Personal Development is just Personal Improvement. We figured out what is not working or not good enough and try to make it works or better. This is just Improvement. Development is going into another stage.
I do not have my own way, and I am using Jung's way.
Below is my simplified version of Jung's Individuation:
1. There are different kinds of Archetypal Complexes in our psyche.
2. Archetypal Complexes are the Concepts about ourselves, some are conscious, some are unconscious.
3. There can be more than one Archetype Complexes in each of the 5 (or 6) Major Archetypes.
4. Conscious Major Archetypes include Persona, our masks we used to face the outer world (e.g. one of the archetypes I use is a Trickster figure which is very flexible).
5. Another Conscious Major Archetype is the Ego, who do we think we are (e.g. one of my Ego archetypes is Wise Old Man figure).
6. Unconscious Major Archetypes include Personal Shadow, the dark side of our Ego, which compose of qualities we unconsciously repressed and do not want ourselves and others to know. In the past, there is a Puer figure in my Personal Shadow. Puer is an never grow-up child. I just don't want to be old!
6. Another Unconscious Major Archetype is the Archetypal Shadow, which is the dark side of the Self, or the dark side of human nature.
7. Anima/Animus is another Unconscious Major Archetype. Anima is the inside female qualities of a man, and the Animus is the inside male qualities of a woman. You can also see Anima being the Feeling Part of a man and Animus being the Thinking Part of a woman. According to Jung, they are the Soul of human being.
8. The last Unconscious Major Archetype is the Self, our true nature. This is the Spirit of human being.
9. One of the reasons why people suffers, being unhappy, and stuck in their development is that we do not know who we really are. We cannot understanding our true Self because the Self is being "blinded" from us by all those other Major Archetypes. You can imagine that the Self is situated in the centre of a circle, with layers of other Major Archetypes at the outside.
10. We do not know who we really are, so we think we are something else -the Ego and/or the Persona, and at the same time, we are affected by all other Archetypes in the Shadow, Anima/Animus and other parts of our Unconscious Mind (some Positive Archetypal Complexes).
11. Jung's Individuation is the process that we identify, inspect and understand each of the Archetypal Complexes from Persona, to Ego, Shadow, Anima/Animus and finally we meet our true Self. We understand that each of those are not our true Self. Once understood, they lost their power on us. The process of understanding is done by realizing these are either good or bad, and neither good nor bad. (This is a paradox, it is difficult!) This process is Transcendance.
12. This idea was created by Jung's modeling of the processes of practice in several religions including Buddhism and Taoism, etc. Don't you see those masters are full of wisdom?
13. So, Individuation is a process of Self Development without any religious boundaries.
14. Why facing the Self is so important in this Self Development Process? From my point of view, it is not important. It is the final step of the process but the importance doesn't lie there. It is the whole process of understanding what is not our true Self matters. With each misunderstanding being clarified, we transcend from one stage to another.
15. Furthermore, I believe that there is actually "Nothing" in the Self. If there is still something there, we are still blocked. In Buddhism, the stage of 非想非非想處地(定) is something similar to Jung's final step of meeting the Self. This stage is also named as 天人合一, 人神合一, 成道 in many other religions (Though Buddism considers this just as a starting point toward 證得佛果!). In this stage, we are not thinking and we are not "not thinking". The only way to achieve such paradox is that there is "nothing" there. There is only Emptiness (shunyata 空性) there.
16. If we are just considering Personal Development, we do not need to go all the way to the Self. When we start the process, each step of identifying, inspecting and understanding of each archetype makes us going into another stage of development. We understand that we are not "someone" or "something", we are "another one", which is nearer to our true Self.
This 16-Points description is just my own understanding. I might not be right about this. I am just sharing what I am practicing. I have practiced this for years and I am still very, very, very far away from the Self!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
This article is specially written for the participants of the Mental Symbology Program. I really thank them for having so much toleration to my presenting of these difficult to understand, but not really immediately useful material!
Thanks!!!
What is Jung's Individuation? Different people studying Jung can have different explanations. Jung provided us his theory which can be one of the best Personal Development Process.
We always talk about Personal Development, but do we have a way to do so? If yes, what is your way?
Many of our so-called Personal Development is just Personal Improvement. We figured out what is not working or not good enough and try to make it works or better. This is just Improvement. Development is going into another stage.
I do not have my own way, and I am using Jung's way.
Below is my simplified version of Jung's Individuation:
1. There are different kinds of Archetypal Complexes in our psyche.
2. Archetypal Complexes are the Concepts about ourselves, some are conscious, some are unconscious.
3. There can be more than one Archetype Complexes in each of the 5 (or 6) Major Archetypes.
4. Conscious Major Archetypes include Persona, our masks we used to face the outer world (e.g. one of the archetypes I use is a Trickster figure which is very flexible).
5. Another Conscious Major Archetype is the Ego, who do we think we are (e.g. one of my Ego archetypes is Wise Old Man figure).
6. Unconscious Major Archetypes include Personal Shadow, the dark side of our Ego, which compose of qualities we unconsciously repressed and do not want ourselves and others to know. In the past, there is a Puer figure in my Personal Shadow. Puer is an never grow-up child. I just don't want to be old!
6. Another Unconscious Major Archetype is the Archetypal Shadow, which is the dark side of the Self, or the dark side of human nature.
7. Anima/Animus is another Unconscious Major Archetype. Anima is the inside female qualities of a man, and the Animus is the inside male qualities of a woman. You can also see Anima being the Feeling Part of a man and Animus being the Thinking Part of a woman. According to Jung, they are the Soul of human being.
8. The last Unconscious Major Archetype is the Self, our true nature. This is the Spirit of human being.
9. One of the reasons why people suffers, being unhappy, and stuck in their development is that we do not know who we really are. We cannot understanding our true Self because the Self is being "blinded" from us by all those other Major Archetypes. You can imagine that the Self is situated in the centre of a circle, with layers of other Major Archetypes at the outside.
10. We do not know who we really are, so we think we are something else -the Ego and/or the Persona, and at the same time, we are affected by all other Archetypes in the Shadow, Anima/Animus and other parts of our Unconscious Mind (some Positive Archetypal Complexes).
11. Jung's Individuation is the process that we identify, inspect and understand each of the Archetypal Complexes from Persona, to Ego, Shadow, Anima/Animus and finally we meet our true Self. We understand that each of those are not our true Self. Once understood, they lost their power on us. The process of understanding is done by realizing these are either good or bad, and neither good nor bad. (This is a paradox, it is difficult!) This process is Transcendance.
12. This idea was created by Jung's modeling of the processes of practice in several religions including Buddhism and Taoism, etc. Don't you see those masters are full of wisdom?
13. So, Individuation is a process of Self Development without any religious boundaries.
14. Why facing the Self is so important in this Self Development Process? From my point of view, it is not important. It is the final step of the process but the importance doesn't lie there. It is the whole process of understanding what is not our true Self matters. With each misunderstanding being clarified, we transcend from one stage to another.
15. Furthermore, I believe that there is actually "Nothing" in the Self. If there is still something there, we are still blocked. In Buddhism, the stage of 非想非非想處地(定) is something similar to Jung's final step of meeting the Self. This stage is also named as 天人合一, 人神合一, 成道 in many other religions (Though Buddism considers this just as a starting point toward 證得佛果!). In this stage, we are not thinking and we are not "not thinking". The only way to achieve such paradox is that there is "nothing" there. There is only Emptiness (shunyata 空性) there.
16. If we are just considering Personal Development, we do not need to go all the way to the Self. When we start the process, each step of identifying, inspecting and understanding of each archetype makes us going into another stage of development. We understand that we are not "someone" or "something", we are "another one", which is nearer to our true Self.
This 16-Points description is just my own understanding. I might not be right about this. I am just sharing what I am practicing. I have practiced this for years and I am still very, very, very far away from the Self!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Monday, December 11, 2006
Neuro-Mentalogy: 大腦迷思
Hi,
我們的大腦每天為我們服務，但究竟我們對她有多大認識，我們大部分對大腦的認識，均是 10 年或更以前的資訊，然而過去 10 年，腦神經科學家的不斷發現，證明了大部分我們以往對大腦的認識，均是錯誤。
我們又怎能以錯誤的理解，來正確地運用我們思維的利器－我們的大腦呢？
以下是 2 項我們向來相信，但實在是誤解的大腦認知：
1. 我們只使用了 3% 或是 10% 大腦：錯誤！我們用了100%大腦，只是不同時間，用不同部分而矣！雖然我也經常說：我們只使用了 3% 大腦能力，我指的是大腦能力，而不是指大腦本身。
整個大腦每一部分也有其獨特用途，我們絕不能只用了大腦的 3% 或 10%，否則當人們意外腦部受傷，無論傷害是那麼小，但仍然能造成重大影響。
2. 左腦是邏輯腦，右腦是創意腦：錯誤！這是一個超過五十年的誤解，實際是不管是邏輯功能，或是創意功能，不管是計數、彈琴、繪畫、推理，左腦及右腦也必須協調共同工作，這些功能是否有效，重點在於你的大腦各個部份，能否整體地協調運作。
有關左右腦的分別，唯一現在還被證實仍是正確的，是左腦控制右邊身體，右腦則控制左邊身體！
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Updated: Feb 17 2017
我們的大腦每天為我們服務，但究竟我們對她有多大認識，我們大部分對大腦的認識，均是 10 年或更以前的資訊，然而過去 10 年，腦神經科學家的不斷發現，證明了大部分我們以往對大腦的認識，均是錯誤。
我們又怎能以錯誤的理解，來正確地運用我們思維的利器－我們的大腦呢？
以下是 2 項我們向來相信，但實在是誤解的大腦認知：
1. 我們只使用了 3% 或是 10% 大腦：錯誤！我們用了100%大腦，只是不同時間，用不同部分而矣！雖然我也經常說：我們只使用了 3% 大腦能力，我指的是大腦能力，而不是指大腦本身。
整個大腦每一部分也有其獨特用途，我們絕不能只用了大腦的 3% 或 10%，否則當人們意外腦部受傷，無論傷害是那麼小，但仍然能造成重大影響。
2. 左腦是邏輯腦，右腦是創意腦：錯誤！這是一個超過五十年的誤解，實際是不管是邏輯功能，或是創意功能，不管是計數、彈琴、繪畫、推理，左腦及右腦也必須協調共同工作，這些功能是否有效，重點在於你的大腦各個部份，能否整體地協調運作。
有關左右腦的分別，唯一現在還被證實仍是正確的，是左腦控制右邊身體，右腦則控制左邊身體！
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Updated: Feb 17 2017
Sunday, December 10, 2006
Hypnosis: Hypnosis is About Changes, Part 7 - 3 Levels of Mind Model
Hi,
This article is specially written for participants and graduates of our Master Hypnotherapist Program. The concept below is quite different from that of what we taught in our Certified Hypnotherapist Program. For particpants of the latter, please refer to Part 0 and Part 1-6 of this article series to prevention confusion.
So we go to our Step 2 by accessing the client's Level 2 Non-Conscious Mind. Most of our beliefs or Mental Programs, and the Problem created by mental programs are quite unconscious to us. They are not in the Level 1 Conscious Mind. We help the clients to be aware of their Problem & Mental Programs by using the hypnotic skills of Inner Guide (IG), Inner Healer (IH) or Communicating with Disease (CD). All these skills do not go very deep. They are only capable in accessing into our Level 2 Non-Conscious Mind. We can also use our Master Hypnotherpaist skillset of Hypnotic Uncovering Technique (UT) in this level.
The Problem will be revealed in form of Advises from the IG or IH, or the Causes, Meanings and Objectives of Disease from the CD. When the Source of the Problem (ISE) is not very painful, the Mental Programs and Problem can be found in the Level 2 Mind, thus can be revealed by IG, IH or CD. Most of the Problems can be solved in this Level 2 Mind.
When there is not much being revealed in this Level 2 Mind, or when there is negative emotions revealed here, we then go to our Step 3, Level 3 Non-Conscious Mind, which is a deeper part of our Non-Conscious Mind.
If the Problem is so repressed deep into a Non-Conscious Mind, not much can be revealed in Level 2 by IG, IH, CD or UT. When negative emotion is associated, the Problem will be repressed deeper as a protective mechanism according to Freud. We just can't live with the negative emotions in our daily lives.
To access the Source of these kinds of Problems in the Level 3 Mind, we use the hypnotic Skills of Inner Regression (IR), Age Regression (AR) or ES Therapy (ES) when no negative emotion is indicated. But we can also apply IR or AR, Inner Communciation (IC) or Forgiveness Therapy (FT), Inner Mediation (IM) or ES according to the types of negative emotion revealed in Level 2 Mind.
When the Source is being revealed, reviewed, and re-understand, the effects of the Source are dissolved and the Mental Program (Beliefs) of the Problem is restructured. The Problem is thus cleared. When the Problem does not exist, all its related Symptoms disappear.
Sometimes, we can't do anything with the Problem and/or the Source, or we are not successful even employing all our skills (this is a fact of life - we have limits), what we can do is either altering the Factors of the Problem or the Symptoms using hypnosis or physically by the clients, or to lower the effects of the Symptoms.
For example, in the above example, the client can change her field into selling female products or find a female boss. This alters the Factors. In case of Psychosomatic Diseases, we can use the hypnotic skills of Golden SunRay (GS) or Colour Healing (CH) to lower the effects of the Symptoms, like pains.
This concludes my final article in this series. The whole series of articles outlined our SOBER System of non-invasive Hypnotherapy. Hoping they create more clarity to our participants of the program.
Thanks again for your support to these articles and to our programs.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Updated: Mar 12 2012
This article is specially written for participants and graduates of our Master Hypnotherapist Program. The concept below is quite different from that of what we taught in our Certified Hypnotherapist Program. For particpants of the latter, please refer to Part 0 and Part 1-6 of this article series to prevention confusion.
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We have several different hypnotic techniques taught in our Certified Hypnotherapist Program and Master Hypnotherapist Program. This article is written to clarify our 3 Levels of Mind Model, which is the fundamental concepts behind their applications.
For any psychosomatic disease and unwanted behaviours, there are always some causes behind.
For example, you have an Initial Sensitizing Event (ISE) of being cheated by your boy friend (or girl friend or whatever...). You develop a Mental Program (i.e. Belief or Beliefs System) of "Men are Bad and They must be Avoided" (Men = Bad -> Avoid). Some Subsequent Sensitizing Events (SSE) can be "attracted" to you. Since you have a Mental Program of "Men = Bad", you filtered off all the "good" men and/or good acts of men. As a result, you can only see all those bad men and bad acts of men. These SSEs reinforced your Mental Program of "Men = Bad -> Avoid"
This Mental Program then creates your Problem. We can't "see" our Problem because it is just a "Non-Matching" of your behaviors with the outside world. Your Mental Program urges you to do something which can be irrational. These irrational acts cause "conflicts" in the outside world so that you think you had a Problem.
The Problem can then create various Symptoms that might annoy you. You might feel very lonely (since half of the population, i.e. men is being avoided). You might not be able to find a boy friend. You might find yourself always having problems with your bosses (many bosses are men, this still are quite true today). You might having not enough business (many clients are men, half of the population?!), etc. These Symptoms can be so unrelated to each others that it is difficult to tell that they all came from the same Problem.
Not all ISE or SSEs can generate Problem. There must have some suitable Factor(s) of the Problem that creates a fostering condition for the Problem to emerge. Not all the Problems can generate Symptom(s), there must have some suitable Factor(s) of the Symptoms that creates a fostering condition for the Symptom to emerge.
So the ISE or SSEs can have no effect on you for years but it starts to produce Problem all of a sudden because one or some Factors of the Problem kick in. For the same reason, a Problem can generate different kinds of Symptoms at different time of your life, when different Factors of Symptoms comes and goes.
Now, let's go back to our 3 Levels of Mind Model.
Level 1 Mind is the Conscious Level. You are aware of your "Problem", but that actually is the Symptom of your underlying Problem. As the Problem can create Symptoms that are so "unrelated", Your Level 1 Conscious Mind can't figure out that they are coming from the same Problem. You might think that you have several different problems. Even though you are open enough to discuss your "problem" with your friends or therapists, you might just tell them just one of the Symptoms since your Level 1 Mind considers them as seperate issues.
When we do our Pre-Talk in hypnosis, it can be better to use a "Time" Oriented Approach, i.e. what happened also at and since the Symptom appeared, instead of a "Nature" Oriented Approach. The information get from this Level 1 Mind during Pre-Talk can be limited, but it forms the basis for our first set of Hypnotic Suggestions. This can be useful as they are pinpointing the Symptom or the intention of the client's visit. These suggestions, when effective, generate confidence, rapport, and thus support and cooperation from the client. This is just the Step 1 of our Therapeutic Intervention.
If there is a Symptom, there is always a Problem. If we can't remove the Problem, it can still generate some other Symptoms. Remember what we taught in class, a Problem has some Objectives. The Symptoms are its means to achieve its Objectives. In the above example, not getting a boy friend is the means to achieve the objective of avoiding the "bad" men. Apart from other Symptoms might be created, even though she can find a boy friend after your suggestions, she might get a "bad" boy friend and causes her some other troubles. It might harm more than help! (Systemic/Holistic Hypnotherapy Rule #1: First do no harm!)
For any psychosomatic disease and unwanted behaviours, there are always some causes behind.
For example, you have an Initial Sensitizing Event (ISE) of being cheated by your boy friend (or girl friend or whatever...). You develop a Mental Program (i.e. Belief or Beliefs System) of "Men are Bad and They must be Avoided" (Men = Bad -> Avoid). Some Subsequent Sensitizing Events (SSE) can be "attracted" to you. Since you have a Mental Program of "Men = Bad", you filtered off all the "good" men and/or good acts of men. As a result, you can only see all those bad men and bad acts of men. These SSEs reinforced your Mental Program of "Men = Bad -> Avoid"
This Mental Program then creates your Problem. We can't "see" our Problem because it is just a "Non-Matching" of your behaviors with the outside world. Your Mental Program urges you to do something which can be irrational. These irrational acts cause "conflicts" in the outside world so that you think you had a Problem.
The Problem can then create various Symptoms that might annoy you. You might feel very lonely (since half of the population, i.e. men is being avoided). You might not be able to find a boy friend. You might find yourself always having problems with your bosses (many bosses are men, this still are quite true today). You might having not enough business (many clients are men, half of the population?!), etc. These Symptoms can be so unrelated to each others that it is difficult to tell that they all came from the same Problem.
Not all ISE or SSEs can generate Problem. There must have some suitable Factor(s) of the Problem that creates a fostering condition for the Problem to emerge. Not all the Problems can generate Symptom(s), there must have some suitable Factor(s) of the Symptoms that creates a fostering condition for the Symptom to emerge.
So the ISE or SSEs can have no effect on you for years but it starts to produce Problem all of a sudden because one or some Factors of the Problem kick in. For the same reason, a Problem can generate different kinds of Symptoms at different time of your life, when different Factors of Symptoms comes and goes.
Now, let's go back to our 3 Levels of Mind Model.
Level 1 Mind is the Conscious Level. You are aware of your "Problem", but that actually is the Symptom of your underlying Problem. As the Problem can create Symptoms that are so "unrelated", Your Level 1 Conscious Mind can't figure out that they are coming from the same Problem. You might think that you have several different problems. Even though you are open enough to discuss your "problem" with your friends or therapists, you might just tell them just one of the Symptoms since your Level 1 Mind considers them as seperate issues.
When we do our Pre-Talk in hypnosis, it can be better to use a "Time" Oriented Approach, i.e. what happened also at and since the Symptom appeared, instead of a "Nature" Oriented Approach. The information get from this Level 1 Mind during Pre-Talk can be limited, but it forms the basis for our first set of Hypnotic Suggestions. This can be useful as they are pinpointing the Symptom or the intention of the client's visit. These suggestions, when effective, generate confidence, rapport, and thus support and cooperation from the client. This is just the Step 1 of our Therapeutic Intervention.
If there is a Symptom, there is always a Problem. If we can't remove the Problem, it can still generate some other Symptoms. Remember what we taught in class, a Problem has some Objectives. The Symptoms are its means to achieve its Objectives. In the above example, not getting a boy friend is the means to achieve the objective of avoiding the "bad" men. Apart from other Symptoms might be created, even though she can find a boy friend after your suggestions, she might get a "bad" boy friend and causes her some other troubles. It might harm more than help! (Systemic/Holistic Hypnotherapy Rule #1: First do no harm!)
So we go to our Step 2 by accessing the client's Level 2 Non-Conscious Mind. Most of our beliefs or Mental Programs, and the Problem created by mental programs are quite unconscious to us. They are not in the Level 1 Conscious Mind. We help the clients to be aware of their Problem & Mental Programs by using the hypnotic skills of Inner Guide (IG), Inner Healer (IH) or Communicating with Disease (CD). All these skills do not go very deep. They are only capable in accessing into our Level 2 Non-Conscious Mind. We can also use our Master Hypnotherpaist skillset of Hypnotic Uncovering Technique (UT) in this level.
The Problem will be revealed in form of Advises from the IG or IH, or the Causes, Meanings and Objectives of Disease from the CD. When the Source of the Problem (ISE) is not very painful, the Mental Programs and Problem can be found in the Level 2 Mind, thus can be revealed by IG, IH or CD. Most of the Problems can be solved in this Level 2 Mind.
When there is not much being revealed in this Level 2 Mind, or when there is negative emotions revealed here, we then go to our Step 3, Level 3 Non-Conscious Mind, which is a deeper part of our Non-Conscious Mind.
If the Problem is so repressed deep into a Non-Conscious Mind, not much can be revealed in Level 2 by IG, IH, CD or UT. When negative emotion is associated, the Problem will be repressed deeper as a protective mechanism according to Freud. We just can't live with the negative emotions in our daily lives.
To access the Source of these kinds of Problems in the Level 3 Mind, we use the hypnotic Skills of Inner Regression (IR), Age Regression (AR) or ES Therapy (ES) when no negative emotion is indicated. But we can also apply IR or AR, Inner Communciation (IC) or Forgiveness Therapy (FT), Inner Mediation (IM) or ES according to the types of negative emotion revealed in Level 2 Mind.
When the Source is being revealed, reviewed, and re-understand, the effects of the Source are dissolved and the Mental Program (Beliefs) of the Problem is restructured. The Problem is thus cleared. When the Problem does not exist, all its related Symptoms disappear.
Sometimes, we can't do anything with the Problem and/or the Source, or we are not successful even employing all our skills (this is a fact of life - we have limits), what we can do is either altering the Factors of the Problem or the Symptoms using hypnosis or physically by the clients, or to lower the effects of the Symptoms.
For example, in the above example, the client can change her field into selling female products or find a female boss. This alters the Factors. In case of Psychosomatic Diseases, we can use the hypnotic skills of Golden SunRay (GS) or Colour Healing (CH) to lower the effects of the Symptoms, like pains.
This concludes my final article in this series. The whole series of articles outlined our SOBER System of non-invasive Hypnotherapy. Hoping they create more clarity to our participants of the program.
Thanks again for your support to these articles and to our programs.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Updated: Mar 12 2012
Saturday, December 09, 2006
Personal Development: Right or Realistic?
Hi,
When your ideas and thoughts are right and realistic, they are nearer to the external world. Then, the chance of success of your actions generated by these ideas & thoughts are much greater. In NLP terms, your "map" is very similar to the "territories"!
Being right and being realistic are two different things. Many people confused!
Being right is your thoughts and ideas are logical. Being realistic is your thoughts and ideas are based on something real, something really had happened or existed. (or are happening or existing)
You need logical argument to prove your ideas being right. You need evidences to justify they are realistic.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
When your ideas and thoughts are right and realistic, they are nearer to the external world. Then, the chance of success of your actions generated by these ideas & thoughts are much greater. In NLP terms, your "map" is very similar to the "territories"!
Being right and being realistic are two different things. Many people confused!
Being right is your thoughts and ideas are logical. Being realistic is your thoughts and ideas are based on something real, something really had happened or existed. (or are happening or existing)
You need logical argument to prove your ideas being right. You need evidences to justify they are realistic.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Friday, December 08, 2006
Freudian & Jungian Psychology
Hi,
In this week's Mental Symbology Class, I predicted in the next 10 years, less and less people will talk about Freud's theories, and more and more people will talk about Jung's and Jung will be "in" again.
Both people's theories are not quite "in" today. But their "non-in" are due to different reasons.
Comparatively speaking, Freudism is easier to be understand, but difficult to be accepted (Everything is about Sex?!). Jungism is much more difficult but easier to be accepted.
Jung's ideas are difficult because he was too avant-garde. He was several decades (or even a century) ahead of his own time. His ideas will be "in" again as they have a lot of resemblance with the modern knowledge, like quantum physics. People are going to value his ideas again in the near future.
However, Freud based a lot of his original ideas from Newtonian Physics, which is proven not quite right today. I am not saying Freud's ideas are bad. I always think that Freudism is the foundation of modern psychology (though not many psychologists will agree!).
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
In this week's Mental Symbology Class, I predicted in the next 10 years, less and less people will talk about Freud's theories, and more and more people will talk about Jung's and Jung will be "in" again.
Both people's theories are not quite "in" today. But their "non-in" are due to different reasons.
Comparatively speaking, Freudism is easier to be understand, but difficult to be accepted (Everything is about Sex?!). Jungism is much more difficult but easier to be accepted.
Jung's ideas are difficult because he was too avant-garde. He was several decades (or even a century) ahead of his own time. His ideas will be "in" again as they have a lot of resemblance with the modern knowledge, like quantum physics. People are going to value his ideas again in the near future.
However, Freud based a lot of his original ideas from Newtonian Physics, which is proven not quite right today. I am not saying Freud's ideas are bad. I always think that Freudism is the foundation of modern psychology (though not many psychologists will agree!).
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
NLP: NLP is about Thinking Part 1 - What NLP is Not?
Hi,
I decided to write this new series since September 2006. I still haven't started yet because I want to organize all my thoughts before writing. Months passed and I think that I will not write anything if I still want to wait.
So, I start to write whatever I see appropriate to someone who really want to know the Real NLP Underlying the Today So-Called NLP.
I will continue to write until I can't write any more on this topic. So, this series can be composed of 10, or 15 or even 20 articles. They might not be in systematic order. Upon completion, I will re-organize and edit them again in order to make them more readable.
Let's start with definition.
There can be hundreds of different definitions of NLP. It's difficult to tell you the best one. But there are right or wrong definitions out there. Let's analyze those wrong definitions first:
1. NLP is about Therapy.
No! The NLP founders started to model several of the most famous therapists, like Satir, Erickson in order to understand how they were so effective and efficient in the 70's. But what they found out that this was about their ways of communicating with their clients. They can easily help their clients to discover something about themselves & their problems and they can effectively persuade their clients to become "normal" again.
Amongst the major models of NLP, none of them is directly related to therapy! You can't become a therapist by learning NLP! Don't even think about being a therapist after you learn NLP. You are going to cause harms more than help. Therapy is much more complicated.
2. NLP is about Communication.
No! NLP is not just about communication. A further study of these great therapists, it is how they think makes them a great communicator.
Their thinking models behind their communication is more important. How you think affects how you communicate. Amongst the major models of NLP, only the Meta Model and the Milton Model is related directly to communication. But these 2 models is more about how our communication affects our thinking and how our thinking affects our communication.
3. NLP is about Selling.
No! In the 80's, the market of therapists for NLP training became limited. Smart NLP Trainers began to promote the NLP trainings for sales professionals. There are more salespersons than therapists in the world, a much bigger market!
NLP can be good for persuasion and thus works well in selling, but NLP is not about selling. Money can buy food but money is not about food?!
4. NLP is about Personal Development.
No! In the early 90's, there were more and more NLP Trainers. Many thought that doing the training was easy. Many people went into the profession of training NLP. So, the NLP Trainers needed a larger market.
If NLP can help and persuade people, it can also be used to improving oneself. NLP was then promoted as a tool for personal development. To be honest, it is a good idea, a much better idea than NLP is about therapy. At least, people will not think themselves as therapist and do all sorts of dangerous stuffs on others after they learned NLP!
Again, NLP can be effectively used to develop oneself, but it is not just about Personal Development.
5. NLP is about Changes.
No. Change is one of the most important concepts of NLP. If someone do not change, he/she can't get what they wish. It is one of the presuppositions of NLP that one gets what he/she currently getting if one do what one currently doing. This is logical.
One can change his/her attitude, thinking, actions, etc to get what he/she wants. This concept of changes is quite misunderstood by many NLP people. It is the output of changes matter, not the input of changes. Many NLP people tries to change others in order to get the output of changes. So, NLP is well-known for its manipulation style!
What we concern is the output of changes, not changing others!
6. NLP is about Management & Leadership.
No. In the 90's, some NLP Trainers figured out that the most profitable market for NLP training and consulting was in the business field. Companies have bigger budget than individuals. So NLP was packaged as Management and Leadership tools.
If NLP can be used to discover and influencing others, NLP can surely becoming useful in business. A good manager is the one who can discover all the available resources and influencing others to use these resources to produce results. Leaders are those people who can discover their visions and then influencing others to follow.
But NLP is not just about Business. It is just one of its applications.
7. NLP is about Coaching.
No. Coaching is the buzz word of the 21st century. Many NLP Trainers (including myself) are using this magic word to make NLP standing at the top of the trend. Coaching is about helping others discovering their problems, opportunities and solutions that they are originally unaware of.
Although I love this concept and NLP can be applied easily to coach others, NLP is still not just about Coaching.
Then, what is NLP about? We talk about this in our next article of the series.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
I decided to write this new series since September 2006. I still haven't started yet because I want to organize all my thoughts before writing. Months passed and I think that I will not write anything if I still want to wait.
So, I start to write whatever I see appropriate to someone who really want to know the Real NLP Underlying the Today So-Called NLP.
I will continue to write until I can't write any more on this topic. So, this series can be composed of 10, or 15 or even 20 articles. They might not be in systematic order. Upon completion, I will re-organize and edit them again in order to make them more readable.
Let's start with definition.
There can be hundreds of different definitions of NLP. It's difficult to tell you the best one. But there are right or wrong definitions out there. Let's analyze those wrong definitions first:
1. NLP is about Therapy.
No! The NLP founders started to model several of the most famous therapists, like Satir, Erickson in order to understand how they were so effective and efficient in the 70's. But what they found out that this was about their ways of communicating with their clients. They can easily help their clients to discover something about themselves & their problems and they can effectively persuade their clients to become "normal" again.
Amongst the major models of NLP, none of them is directly related to therapy! You can't become a therapist by learning NLP! Don't even think about being a therapist after you learn NLP. You are going to cause harms more than help. Therapy is much more complicated.
2. NLP is about Communication.
No! NLP is not just about communication. A further study of these great therapists, it is how they think makes them a great communicator.
Their thinking models behind their communication is more important. How you think affects how you communicate. Amongst the major models of NLP, only the Meta Model and the Milton Model is related directly to communication. But these 2 models is more about how our communication affects our thinking and how our thinking affects our communication.
3. NLP is about Selling.
No! In the 80's, the market of therapists for NLP training became limited. Smart NLP Trainers began to promote the NLP trainings for sales professionals. There are more salespersons than therapists in the world, a much bigger market!
NLP can be good for persuasion and thus works well in selling, but NLP is not about selling. Money can buy food but money is not about food?!
4. NLP is about Personal Development.
No! In the early 90's, there were more and more NLP Trainers. Many thought that doing the training was easy. Many people went into the profession of training NLP. So, the NLP Trainers needed a larger market.
If NLP can help and persuade people, it can also be used to improving oneself. NLP was then promoted as a tool for personal development. To be honest, it is a good idea, a much better idea than NLP is about therapy. At least, people will not think themselves as therapist and do all sorts of dangerous stuffs on others after they learned NLP!
Again, NLP can be effectively used to develop oneself, but it is not just about Personal Development.
5. NLP is about Changes.
No. Change is one of the most important concepts of NLP. If someone do not change, he/she can't get what they wish. It is one of the presuppositions of NLP that one gets what he/she currently getting if one do what one currently doing. This is logical.
One can change his/her attitude, thinking, actions, etc to get what he/she wants. This concept of changes is quite misunderstood by many NLP people. It is the output of changes matter, not the input of changes. Many NLP people tries to change others in order to get the output of changes. So, NLP is well-known for its manipulation style!
What we concern is the output of changes, not changing others!
6. NLP is about Management & Leadership.
No. In the 90's, some NLP Trainers figured out that the most profitable market for NLP training and consulting was in the business field. Companies have bigger budget than individuals. So NLP was packaged as Management and Leadership tools.
If NLP can be used to discover and influencing others, NLP can surely becoming useful in business. A good manager is the one who can discover all the available resources and influencing others to use these resources to produce results. Leaders are those people who can discover their visions and then influencing others to follow.
But NLP is not just about Business. It is just one of its applications.
7. NLP is about Coaching.
No. Coaching is the buzz word of the 21st century. Many NLP Trainers (including myself) are using this magic word to make NLP standing at the top of the trend. Coaching is about helping others discovering their problems, opportunities and solutions that they are originally unaware of.
Although I love this concept and NLP can be applied easily to coach others, NLP is still not just about Coaching.
Then, what is NLP about? We talk about this in our next article of the series.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
Coaching: AID Coaching Model
Hi,
3 years ago in 2003, I liked to teach my NLP Practitioner Program participants how to coach others in a easy and fast manner, if one has just 3 or 4 minutes. So, I created the AID Model by modeling my own self when I do some quick coaching.
This is based on a logical thinking process. When you ask the questions accordingly, you are facilitating the clients to think logically. Most of the time we can't figure out an answer because we are not logical enough. (Logical not Linear!)
Here is the model:
Actions: What happened?
Influences: How did these affect the situation?
Desirable Alternative: How to improve the situation?
We stucked in getting a solution, mightbe due to we do not know exactly what happened, or we do not understand its effects. When one gets the first 2 questions thoroughly answered, it will be much easier for one to answer the 3rd question.
Try it!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
3 years ago in 2003, I liked to teach my NLP Practitioner Program participants how to coach others in a easy and fast manner, if one has just 3 or 4 minutes. So, I created the AID Model by modeling my own self when I do some quick coaching.
This is based on a logical thinking process. When you ask the questions accordingly, you are facilitating the clients to think logically. Most of the time we can't figure out an answer because we are not logical enough. (Logical not Linear!)
Here is the model:
Actions: What happened?
Influences: How did these affect the situation?
Desirable Alternative: How to improve the situation?
We stucked in getting a solution, mightbe due to we do not know exactly what happened, or we do not understand its effects. When one gets the first 2 questions thoroughly answered, it will be much easier for one to answer the 3rd question.
Try it!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Tuesday, December 05, 2006
The more I know, the less I really know!
Hi,
In the past few days, I am working hard for the presentation of the Jungian Symbolism in my Mental Symbology Program.
I had studied Jung's material for nearly 10 years and I always think that I know quite a lot of Jungian Psychology. When I tried to assimilate his ideas on symbolism, I find myself stucked. I just can't write a single word.
The old saying of "The more you know something, the less you really know" is absolutely correct. Only idiot thinks he know everything!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
In the past few days, I am working hard for the presentation of the Jungian Symbolism in my Mental Symbology Program.
I had studied Jung's material for nearly 10 years and I always think that I know quite a lot of Jungian Psychology. When I tried to assimilate his ideas on symbolism, I find myself stucked. I just can't write a single word.
The old saying of "The more you know something, the less you really know" is absolutely correct. Only idiot thinks he know everything!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
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