Hypnosis: Hypnosis is about Changes Part 5

Hi,

This is the Part 5 of the article series of "Hypnosis is about Changes".

To recap what we had discussed in the last 4 parts:

Source > Problems/Factors > Symptoms


This is not the full picture yet. The Source cannot directly produce the Problem. For example, a boy who was frightened by his teacher cannot make him having fear with his boss. The former can be the Source of the latter. But there is a missing link between them. It can be something like this:

Source > Beliefs > Problems/Factors > Symptoms

The Source subsconciosuly induced a/some beliefs, which indirectly lead to the Problem. The boy, after being frightened by his teacher, can believe that all people senior than him can be threatening. This Belief causes the fear.

This opens up another door for hypnotherapists to work on the Problem. We can identify the Belief behind clients' Problem. When they shifted their Beliefs, they improve their Problems.

We can use hypnotic techniques like Inner Guidance, Inner Healer, Communicating with the Disease Entity, Hypnotic Uncovering Technique, or Ego States Therapy to identify the Meaning of the Illness or Problem. When the Meaning and/or Belief is exposed, if it is irrational, the clients can then gain understanding and learning.

We will talk about the last Element, Resultant, in our Part 6.

Keith

NLP: More Choices, More Confusion? 越多選擇，越為混亂？

Hi,

This is a follow-up message for the previous message of "Problem Solving Models".

One of our readers emailed me another question which can help us understanding the Choices Concept of NLP even more. Here is the question:

"The more choices one has, the higher the possibility of getting his/her problems solved. But the more choices one has, the more confusion of managing choices is created."

This is the most frequent question asked about choices!

More choices lead to more confusion? This is a common misunderstanding about "Choices".

Choices are the available responses for a situation. They are the responses you can act. It is coming from within yourself. It is not an Option that was being provided by others. There is no decision process needed when making a choice. You select automatically the best choice to fulfill the situation you are facing. So, there is no confusion.

Each individual situation demands the most suitable choice from the pool of your available choices. If you do not have many choices, the most suitable one might not be a good one, and you are stuck!

Hope this explanation helps.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

P.S. Revised on Jan 7 2011.


中文翻譯：

這是之前的一篇文章『問題解決模式』的後續。

我們其中一位讀者朋友，對上文提出了一條問題，小弟認為這條問題，有助大家對NLP中的選擇概念的瞭解，故抄錄如下：『越多選擇，越能解決難題；但越多選擇，管理眾多選擇，也變得越混亂！』

這是有關選擇的普遍疑問。

更多的選擇，就會導致更多的混亂嗎？這是最常見對選擇的誤解！

選擇是在某一個情況下可用的回應，它們是你可以採取行動的諸種反應；它來自內心，而不是由他人提供的選項。做選擇時，根本沒有需要什麼決策過程，你是自動地揀取最能滿足你所面臨的情況的最佳選擇，因此，選擇並不會構成混淆不清。

你自動從各個可用的選擇中，找出最適合的，來應付你面對的每個不同情況；如果您沒有太多選擇的話，最合適的一個，也可能不是一個好的選擇，那麼，你就是所謂的膠著 (Stuck)了 ！

Problemology: Problem Solving Models

Hi,

I recieved an question from one of our classmates today as follows:

You have suggested two different approaches to solve difficult problem in the WABC Roundtable meetings:

1) 忘記 - 憂慮 - 欠缺 - 挫折 - 忽略 - 危險
2) 症狀 - 理想 - 差異 - 機制 - 解決 - 起因

Do you have any suggestion on how to relate the 2 approaches into an inter-related model for solving problem. Any suggestion will be greatly appreciated.


Here is my answer and I like to share with you all:

These 2 models are choices for you to choose to solve your problems.

They might not have any relationship. But the more choices one has, the higher the possibility of getting his/her problems solved. One can't solve his/her problems because one might not have enough choicea or have only one single choice but it doesn't works.

In my recent free course, the Life Strategist Program, I presented 50 problem solving strategies. The one message I want to share is: We can have a lots of choices!

BTW, the first model can be easily used in personal problems while the 2nd one can be used in both personal and business situations with ease.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

A Simple Way to Make Things Concrete

Hi,

Being human, we can't handle abstract things. Our mind will freezes and we can't respond to it. So we are not very good at ideas and being creative.

Things become more and more abstract today as things change so fast. Anything during changes is abstract until the changes are completed. But when the changes are completed, things start to change again. This is a never-ending story happening again and again today.

So, people suffers.

There is a simple way to make abstract things concrete and solid, so that we can then deal with them.

Name it. Give it a name.

When you give it a name, it changes from nothing to something.

Don't be afraid to give things wrong names. Once you give it a name, you can start to work on it. Then you get more information about it. You can change its name whenever you like.

Name something when you do not know what it is!

Keith

Winning & Losing

Hi,

I just watched a TV documentary program. It is about the physiology of winning and losing of human beings.

We all have the instinct to win and to avoid losing. Our lower brain (the animal brain) produces different kinds of chemicals that make us feeling excited and happy when winning and make us feeling miserable and weak when losing.

We hate but remember our losing, all because of these chemicals. This enables human beings becoming so competitive. People withdraws from competitions because they remember too much the bad feelings of being losed. The original intention is to encourage us to learn and remember from our losings so that we can improve in the future.

This is quite "normal" and can be found in most of us. We can't do much, if we are just animals. But we are not.

Our upper brain, the human brain, which is extraordinarily well-developed in human, helps us to think how to win and how to learn from our failures.

But when during competitions and urgency, the chemicals in our lower brain suppress the normal activities of our upper brain. We stop thinking.

Solution: Think and Plan Ahead!

However, this is not our usual habit! If we do not really think and plan ahead, we are just like animals.

Think and Plan Ahead!

Keith

Master Hypnotherapist Retreat - Why Hypnosis Failed?

Hi,

I had just completed the Master Hypnotherapist Retreat last weekend.

Due to some incidents in my life, I decided to teach all I really know about hypnosis in this retreat. I changed 95% of the course content as compared to last retreat.

I think that I had already done my best to teach everything I can teach. Hoping all those classmates who had come enjoyed and learned.

I myself did enjoyed the weekend very much. Keeping what I think is the most useful to myself with teaching them seems to be a burden to myself. Now, the burden is off my shoulders.

Let me summarised what you had learned in the retreat as the answers to the most important question that every serious hypnotherapist should asked themselves: Why Hypnosis Failed?

1. Not deep enough! Hypnotize your clients to ultra-depth.

2. Not Persuasive Enough! Keep all the 3 major frameworks of Suggestions in mind and do the hard work of practising until you can 語無倫次 out of nothing without thinking. Just remember my demo of "seducing" that old lady and young girl in that 砵仔糕 shop.

3. Not Seeing Enough! See more. See the whole system. This is the only part you need to "think". Remember, a hypnotherapist is an "Active Media". He thinks before interventing.

4. Emotions Block Discovery! Use Painless Therapies as much as possible!

Again, thanks all for your hardwork, participation, and supports.

Keith

Hypnosis: Hypnosis is about Changes Part 4

Hi,

This is Part 4 of my article series of "Hypnosis is about Changes".

To recap what we had discussed in the last 3 parts:

Source > Problems/Factors > Symptoms


Every Problem the client facing might have a Source, the initial origin. It can be some unpleasant past experience. The Problem can then produce various Symptoms.

In this Part 4, I am going to talk about the Factors Element.

The Factors are conditions that support the Problem. It can be internal or external. The more intense are the Factors, the more serious can the Problem be.

If we can't work on the Source due to whatever reasons, we can "attack" the Factors. We, hypnotherapists, can help our clients either by making our clients aware of the Factors so that they can do something about them, or by reducing the intensity of their internal factors, or by lowering their reactions to the external factors, or by cutting off the links between the Factors and the Problem.

Usually by doing so, we can reduce the seriousness of the Problem, or sometimes we can eliminate the Problem as the conditions (Factors) is not strong enough to support the Problem any more.

In our Part 5 of the series, we will discuss the Belief Element of the Problem.

Keith

Hypnosis: What is the Use of Pre-Talk in Hypnotherapy?

Hi,

Someone asked me a question about Hypnotherapy today.

If we should not do any diagnosis, what is the function of Pre-Talk?

Yes, we should not doing any diagnosis. This is the work of medical doctors/clinical psychologist and other professionals. It is dangerous and misleading to clients as we do not have the right kind of training to do diagnosis.

But we do analysis with the clients. We assist the clients to analyse his/her own situation so that they can be clearer about themeselves and their problems.

So, we ask questions to help them to understand.

Medical doctors ask and answer questions.

Keith

Life Strategy, Simple?!

Hi,

I just conducted my "Life Strategist" Free Seminar Series Part 1 earlier this week.

I intended to present a total of 200+ life strategies for you to select for exceling your own life.

Some people might think that those life strategies are so simple, each with just 2 simple words?

What do you expect? A thesis for each strategy!

By definition, a strategy must be simple. If it is complicated, it might be a tactic or just one of the methods.

A strategy is the approach to get what you want in the future. It provides just enough structure to induce your thinking for the suitable tactics and methods.

But it is just too simple and vague. Yes, not everybody gets used to the strategy level of thinking because it is "too" simple and vague. Many seek methods for their whole lives. But they lost sight of the bigger picture. They are so involved into the "doing" part. They are busy for their whole life but just can't get what they expected.

Slowly, people lower their expectation and explain that that is reality.

Strategy gives you the bigger picture to see what can be done to achieve what you want. It keeps you focusing on what's matter and what's important.

So, you can either get used to the rather simple and vague strategy or continue what you are doing in the past and get what you got in the past.

Wish you successful in your journey of startegies search!

Keith

我的觀點: 親歷其境

Hi,

人生在世，太多冷眼旁觀，太少親歷其境！

只有旁觀，沒有親身體驗，充其量只能獲取知識的一半！

我於自己的書中經常談及多位希臘哲人的智慧，但全都取材自書籍及各種參考資料，我決定於五月份前往希臘一行，親身走過哲人走過的足跡，讓自己一次親歷其境，望能得到更大更深的領略及啟發。

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel