Hypnosis: Hypnosis is about Changes Part 3

Hi,

This is Part 3 of my article series of "Hypnosis is about Changes".

As mentioned in Part 1, hypnotherapist facilitating changes can be done at the Cause/Factors, Problem(s) or the Symptoms Levels. I talked about the Symptoms Level in Part 2. It is easiest at the Symptoms Level. We do it by giving Post-Hypnotic Suggestions. But the problem is it seldom really work!

In this Part 3, I am going to talk about the Sources Level.

Every problem has an ultimate cause, which can be physical, psychological or emotional. We cannot do much about the cause if it is physical and psychological. It is the job of medical doctors or clinical psychologists respectively. Being a hypnotherapist, we can work on emotional causes.

There can be a lot of causes for a problem. The best leverage is to work on the ultimate cause, or the original cause - the "Source" of the problem. So, this level is better called the "Source Level" to reduce mis-understandings.

The "Source" can be happened years ago, or just in last week. The "Source" can be some bad experiences in the past. When the "Source" is settled, the problem is then resolved automatically.

We can use all kinds of Regression Therapy, like Inner Regression (in Certified Hypnotherapist Level) or Age Regression (in Master Hypnotherapist Level). We assist the client to go back to the time of the "Source", re-view it and re-understand it. It is the new understandings that heal!

Regression Therapy can be a painful, but fruitful process. If you are not well-trained for it, keep out of it! One can hurt the client even more by mis-using these skills.

When clients get new understanding about the "Source", they changed the "old" beliefs related to the "Source" and then to the "Problem". Our old beliefs must be replaced with new beliefs before changes can be taken place. We cannot "not" believe/do something old, we must believe/do something new instead! So we always ask our clients for positive messages, new learnings or understandings upon completion of the regression therapy.

Skillful hypnotherapists will convert these positive messages, new learnings and understandings into Post-Hypnotic Suggestions.

Why clients can always get positive messages, new learnings and understandings after successful regression therapy? It is because there are some critical elements in any good regression therapies:

1. Clients reexperience the whole thing again. They release the repressed emotions so that they can "see" the experience clearer.

2. Clients have the chance to "disscoiate" from him/herself during the process, so that they can "see" the experience in a more objective perspective.

3. Clients can "see" what happened before, during and after the experience again. They have the time to "see" what they had missed when it happened in the past.

4. Clients can "go" into the minds of the related other people. This makes clients not only understand better the case, but the thinking of related people.

5. Therapists have a systematic process to request the clients for the positive messages, new learnings and understandings. This process assits clients for a better understanding.

Inner Communication is another tool for the "Source" Level. This enables the clients to finish the "unfinished" business with someone else in the past. This process works when the "Source" is an unfinished business. Of course, when you still angry with someone after years, this is an unfinished business.

I will discuss with you the "Factors Level" in Part 4 of this series later.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel


催眠是關於改變的 第三部分 – 起因 (Source)

這是我的 『催眠是關於改變的』系列，第三篇短文。

正如第一部分所提及，催眠治療師可以從起因/因素，問題或表徵層面上促進改變。我也在第二部分提及過，在表徵層面介入是比較容易，而運用的技術是後暗示。但這問題是很少機會能夠達到效果。

在第三部分，我會談談根源層面。

每個 『問題』都有最根本的起因，它可以是關於物理，心理或是情感。如果起因是關於物理和心理上的問題，我們並不能介入，它是醫生或是臨床心理學家的工作；作為一個催眠治療師，我們可以研究情感上的起因。

『問題』可以有多個起因 (Causes)，研究最根本或是最初的起因是最大的槓桿－ 『問題』的根源。為了減少誤解，因此，這層面稱為『根源層面』。

『根源』(Sources)，可以發生在很多年前，或只是幾個星期內；『根源』 (Sources)，可以是過去的一些不好經歷。當『根源』已處理好，『問題』便會自動地被解決。

我們可以使用各種各樣的回溯治療，如『內在回溯』（註冊催眠治療師課程），『年齡回溯』（Master Hypnotherapist）。我們協助客戶回溯到『根源』的時期，再重新審視它，再重新理解，它就是治癒的新理解。回溯治療可以是相當辛苦的，但卻是卓有成效的過程，如果你不是訓練有素，最好敬而遠之！因為你可能誤用這個具有難度的技術，而傷害到客戶。

當客戶從『根源』中得到新的理解時，有關於『根源』和所導致的『問題』之『舊有信念』都能因此而改變。在改變發生前，我們需要用『新信念』來取代『舊信念』，我們不能『不』相信 / 『不』做一些原有的事情，我們必定是相信/做一些新的事來取代！因此，在回溯治療中，我們總會要求客戶一些正面訊息，新的體會和新的理解。

熟練的催眠治療師，會運用這些正面訊息，新體會和新理解作為催眠後暗示。

為甚麼成功的回溯治療後，客戶能夠從中得到正面訊息，新體會和新理解？
這是因為每個成功的回溯治療中，都有些關鍵性因素。

1. 客戶再重新經歷整件事情：他們釋放了被壓抑的情緒，所以他們能清析地『審視』經歷。

2. 在過程中，客戶能夠『抽離』：因此，他們更能客觀，不偏不倚地『審視』這經歷。

3. 客戶能再經歷事情，來『審視』在事情發生之前，之間和之後的情景：他們可以『看到』過去所發生的事情，有甚麼是看漏了的。

4. 客戶能『進入』其他有關人等的思想（客戶心裡的內在次人格）：這不僅令客戶更瞭解事件，同時又能瞭解相關人等的想法，（客戶之內在次人格思維，因而他能對自己獲取更充份的理解）

5. 治療師有一個有系統的過程，來要求客戶取得正面訊息，新體會和新理解：這個過程能協助客戶得到較大程度的理解。

當『根源』是一件未完成的事，運用內在溝通是為了解決『根源層面』的另一個工具，它能使客戶完成一些過去與某些人有關的『未完成』事件，（這也是客戶的內在次人格），當你在事過境遷以後，你仍在惱怒某人，這就可能是一件未完成事件。

我將會與你在這系列中的第四部分，談論『因素層面』。

Personal Development: Using "Help" Command in Life

Hi,

I wrote the "Using DOS to Help You Think" article a few days ago. Quite some people emailed me for more. Here is my another thought:

We can always ask for help, if we are in need. But we must know how to do so before you get the "right" help.

In DOS, when you type in "HELP" in the command line, it returns with the explanation of ALL the commands. If you do not know where you are, these "Helps" are useless!

When asking for help, know where you are first. Then you can easily selected from the advises of others. People gives you various kinds of advises, some are even contradictory, because they are standing in different "locations" of your problem.

Not what you want, but where you are, are more important when asking and evaluating for advises!

Keith

Using DOS to Help You Think

Hi,

DOS is the first operating system for PC. It goes back all the way to the 80's. I always think DOS is the best operating system for PC. It is fast as it is nearest to the sourcecode.

Thinking is like computing. You can make use of the DOS commands to help you think. Here are some great "commands" for your mind:

1. DELETE: Erase what is not neccessary.

2. CLS: Clear the screen and start thinking again, if you are too confused.

3. COMP: Compare how others doing it. You always get some insights, no matter others is doing great or bad.

4. COPY: Copy what's working. You can copy from your past or from others. Always COMP before COPY, or you might copy something useless or outdated.

5. HELP: Seek help from others if you are still stuck!

Keith

Creativity: 1,499 New Ideas in 2 Hours

Hi,

I conducted the first session of the Think-Tank 2006 Program in last Wednesday. My goal is to generate a total of 1,999 ideas in 3 2-Hours sessions this year.

But just in our first session, we produced 1,499 ideas, in 2 hours, by 64 participants. That is 23.4 ideas per person. By the way, they did all that just in 50 minutes. We were doing de-briefing in the the rest of the time. Don't you think that this is a encouraging results!

There are 2 findings in our first session:

1. Treat every idea a seperate idea. This prevents limitation of your thoughts from the previous ideas.

2. We need triggers for new ideas. Ideas are not coming out of nothing.

We are going to have our second session on July 5 2006. If you want to join us, email me at keithto@excelcentre.net so that I can remind you in June.

Why do I organize these free sessions?

I believe that creativity can only be possible when we actually stretch our creativity muscles!

Keith

Some Learning from Class of NLP Essentials 2006 Module 1

Hi,

I have just done the NLP Essentials 2006 Program Module 1 yesterday's evening. Just like every other time in all of my trainings I delivered, I learned from our classmates. Here are some inspiring ones I gained in this module:

1. Success is NOT being Happy. Being happy is the result of success.

2. Both adding good stuff and/or removing bad stuff can help.

3. Bad experience can be composed of many, many individual incidences. This makes them so difficult to change. But when you try to name all of the incidences, you just can't tell so many. We sometimes over-estimate our bad experiences!

4. In Chinese, the word "體驗" implies using our 'Body" to "Experiment". That means we must act to learn. But so many of us is not doing "體驗", but just "睇驗". We just want to watch to learn!

5. When you want something, at least ask for it! I don't mean that we should be lazy by doing nothing. But asking is also a kind of doing.


Keith

Learning from Life #51 - #55

Hi,

Here is another part of my learning from life in the past few weeks:

51. It is hard to change, and life is even harder if we don't change.

52. People don't like to hear the truth, and they do not like to hear the untrue either.

53. They like to hear the truth, with something untrue inside.

54. People want more even they might already having too much.

55. Destroy what you are doing before someone destroy it.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Life: What You Give, Returns

Hi,

I posted the above message in last October. One of our friends recently send in his/her response as follows:

Hi Dr. If that's the case, then why do so many good people have bad lives and so many bad people seem to have good lives? I'm honestly curious.


I think that this is a good question, so I post my reply here:

Good question. There are so many reasons. Talk to a buddhist monk, he might give you even more insights.

Here are some of "my" reasons:

1. Good and bad people is a generalization. Does a good person does everything good? A bad person always bad?

2. Intention is another issue. The intention of doing something good or bad makes a difference.

3. Time is also another factor. In systems thinking, "delays" are something very common.

4. Things come back as opportunities. If one does not seize the opportunities coming to him/her, nothing good can be happened.

5. Focus is another issue. There are so many bad people getting bad results and good people getting good results. Focus on these people and count, you will be delighted to find good things do happen to good people and our prisons are so fully occupied.

6. "What you give, returns" is a belief that makes me keeping on giving. I choose to believe in this.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Updated: Apr 11 2015

Coaching: It's OK Not to Understand

Hi,

I started the Da Vinci Notes Emailing for several months. My plan is to post one Da Vinci's Notes with my own ideas each day.

I stopped doing so since Jan 7 2006. I was totally stucked by his notes #55. I just couldn't understand what he intended to say.I stucked for 1.5 months.

I never tell others about my stuck. Yesterday, I talked to one of my best friends about this. Then suddenly, an idea came out of my mind - it's OK not to understand! Then I proceeded the emailing of Da Vinci Notes yesterday.

My Learning:

1. My friend had done nothing. When you are stuck, voice it out, or you are going to become even more stuck!
2. Why should anyone in the world understand everything? Everyone is learning and it's is really too OK not to understand something!
3. Just like doing coaching, the less we do/say, the more space for thinking the clients have.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

P.S. If you still want to receive my Da Vinci Notes + My Ideas, send a blank email to Da Vinci Notes Emailing Service.


Updated & Revised on Sept 14 2007

Personal Development: Failogy

Hi,

Failure is great and failure is sweet.

We are so fear of failure that we freeze when facing changes!

I started a website, www.failogy.com to introduce the concept of failing smart a few months ago. I am writing the 48 Principles of Failogy. I have just updated it and now there are 30 Principles.

If you want to learn more about Failing, Failure and Failogy, go to www.failogy.com now to take a look.

I like to request for some help. Please kindly give me your ideas about failure, failogy and the 30 Principles of Failogy so that I can share with all our friends. Just email me your ideas at keithto@keithto.com.

Thanks a lot!

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Coaching: Does Coach Give Advice?

Hi,

This is an old question. Some say yes and some say no.

My opinion is "NO".

If we coaches give advices, then what is the difference between a coach and a consultant and/or trainer?

Many authorities in our field will tell you to give advices when your clients ask you to do so. Their rationale is that when our clients need advices, it is then our responsibility to give.

I totally can't agree with this.

Your clients will surely need advices if you are willing to give. Everyone wants shortcuts to their problems. "Everyone" includes clients and coaches.

Coaches give advices only because they want to give.

It seems to be easier for coaches when they can't help their clients to find their own answers. Advices just block the clients' way for their own answers. Coaching minimizes dependence because we do not give advices. We "train" our clients to uncover their own, and to think wider and deeper. Giving advices reduces the width and the depth of clients' thinking. It hurts in a long run than help!

It is our profession to help others through questioning, just like a teacher helps his/her students through teaching. Could a teacher sit in the examination for his/her students simply because he/she can't teach them to be successful in learning?

Coaching has its limitations. When we can't help our clients through coaching, we can then discuss with them to seek other professional services in order to solve their problem, or refer them to a coach who can help them better.

Do I give advice to my clients? Yes, when it is an emergence. When my clients is going to hurt themselves or others, when they are going to do something illegal, I will just advise them to think again!

In many scenarios, coaching can't help much. But I still respect my profession. I do what I suppose to do!

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Updated: Apr 11 2015