Keith To's Ideas & Thoughts on NLP, Hypnosis, Coaching, Facilitation, Self Improvement, Personal and Business Development. These seem to be nothing related. But from a Systemic Thinking perspective, they share similar nature and processes.
陶兆輝對身心語言程序學、催眠治療學、教練學、輔引學、自我改進、個人發展及商業發展的純個人看法;它們看似毫不相關,但當你從合整式思維角度來看,它們卻擁有相近的性質及過程;我將每隔數天不斷加入新的文章, 內容絕不敢認為是肯定正確, 旨在拋磚引玉而矣。
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Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Announcement: The Language Breakthrough Workshop & the Certified Handwriting Analyst Program
After thorough thinking, I finally decided to cancell the coming Language Breakthrough Workshop, which was originally scheduled in April 2008.
Instead, I replace it with the more interesting and rare Certified Handwriting Analyst Program. There are so many "speaking workshops" out there, though I always think mine is great, but anybody can learn that from someone else.
The Certified Handwriting Analyst Program is composed of 2 Parts, the Foundation Course and the Advanced Course. Each is 12 hours long.
Foundation Course: April 2-23, May 7-14 2008 (7:30pm - 9:30pm)
Advanced Course: June 6-27, July 18-25 2008 (7:30pm - 9:30pm)
Sorry to disappoint some of you and please accept my appology.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Monday, November 12, 2007
我的觀點極短篇: 歷史課是不重要的?
政府的毫無遠見的政策,竟讓兩成的中學不再為初中教授中國歷史課!
試問有什麼科目比歷史更能掌握世界,開拓思考?
但是歷史是舊東西,我們要向前看,就好像什麼『十大建設』才有價值,這又是新比舊好,硬件比軟件重要的理論。
最佳的學習是從經驗中取經,但經驗剎那即逝,難於掌握學習,但歷史卻給人『固定』下來,讓我們慢慢研究,歷史事件本身、歷史事件之間的因果、歷史的發展趨勢,全都是智慧,能放棄學習嗎?
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Written on: Oct 30 2007
我的觀點極短篇: 以低成本運作
不論行事或做人,產能(Productivity)不是一個絕對的概念,而是相對性的,它相對於你的成本,成本越低,回報不高也可以是高產能的。
低成本不是靠『減低成本』來實踐的,如果本身是屬於高成本結構的,能減的只是浪費了的成本,再減就必影響回報!
有效的低成本是基於『低成本結構』,即本身就不需要太多成本,Internet-Based及我在Laser Lessons Program中提及的『單元模式』就是『低成本結構』的例子。
不要只管節省,想想如何以『低成本結構』運作可能得到更多!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Facilitation: Differentiating Facilitation & Coaching
Both Facilitation and Coaching are great tools for the 21st Century management and helping professionals. But they are different, though the difference is subtle.
What are Coaching & Facilitation?
Both aim at helping others through making them discovering more to develop their own solutions. The difference is not being the number of audience. Both coaching and facilitation can be done on an one-to-one or one-to-many basis.
Coaching is at the far end, the Discovery End of the communication spectrum. It is quite a pure form of discovery. A coach does not know how something was happened and how it is going to happen. A coach helps the clients by perceiving and thinking more and clearer through non-directive questioning.
Facilitation is a less pure form of discovering. A Facilitator guides the clients in perceiving and thinking in a direction decided by the facilitator. A facilitator is an expert in some of the processes commonly faced by a person or an organization, like ideas generation, conflict resolution, etc. A facilitator guides these processes under some frameworks. These frameworks provide directions so that the process becoming easier and faster.
Does Coaching or Facilitation lead others? Yes. A coach leads others' context of perceiving and thinking, while a facilitator leads others' context of the processes. But both do not lead others' content of the issues, i.e. they do not give advises and teach.
When a coach or facilitator advises others, he/she is doing something else other than coaching or facilitation. But most coaches and facilitators give advises because it is easier to do so. Telling always seems easier than helping others to discover by themselves. However, the advises can be not appropriate or wrong!
So, a coaching model must be a perceiving or thinking model (like our A to B Model, 6 Tiers of Questioning Models, Fulfill Model, etc.). A facilitation model should be a process model.
There are so many coaching models out there should be classified as facilitation models as they are talking about a specific process for the clients, like self improvement or business development, etc.
Coaching or Facilitation, which one is easier?
Coaching is easier for the coach, but more difficult for the clients. Facilitation is more difficult for the facilitator, but easier for the clients.
A coach can just rely on one single thinking model to coach while a facilitator require to apply different process models to facilitate different situations. Even for the same kind of situation, like ideas generation, a facilitator might use different process models according to the background of audiences and situation.
It is easier for the facilitator's clients because they are provided with the directions to think. However, the depth of discovery can be greater in coaching and the effects can be longer term and more extensive.
Facilitation is more linear and faster while coaching is more radiant but slower.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
我的觀點極短篇: 用平常心思維,以進取心行事
小心還是進取?一個很大的矛盾。
小心,最後可能什麼也得不到;
進取,亦有可能什麼也失去!
任何矛盾如能看通,也就沒有什麼矛盾存在。
用平常心思維,以進取心行事。
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Monday, November 05, 2007
Facilitation: 12 Principles of Process Facilitation (plus Principle 1: Preparation)
Facilitation is making the process easier and faster.
To make learning facilitation and doing facilitation easier and faster, I designed the 12 Principles of Process Facilitation.
You an apply facilitation in any process in your organization, no matter it is a meeting, or a brainstorming, conflicts resolution, idea-generation or decision-making session.
I will discuss very briefly (to make it easier and faster!) each of the 12 Principles here and in subsequent articles. Here comes the first principle, Preparation: Creating Base of Successful Facilitation.
Facilitation needs a concrete base to start. Preparation is the key. Preparation happens before the sessions. The most important part is Contracting.
Contracting is not signing of the agreement. It is about both the Facilitator and the Client knowing "what" are going to and need to be happened.
Apart from the "what", ensure both parties understand the "where", "when", "who" and some "how" in order to accomplish the "why" of the process.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Concepts 101 Part 12: Complex
Complex is different from Complicated.
The nature can be Complex, but not Complicated. We, human beings make things and our lives complicated. Complexity is due to the number of elements and their inter-relationships.
If something is complicated, we see the simplicity in it by viewing it from different perspectives and then we remove the complications.
If something is complex, we admire, understand and utilize its complexity by identifying its components and their interactions.
Effective people simplifies the complicated, but sees through the complexity.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Sunday, November 04, 2007
Concepts 101 Part 11: Simple (原文為英文,後加中文翻譯)
If something is good and lasting, it must be simple.
If something is a truth, it must be simple.
If it is not simple, there will be too many parts subjected to influence and it will not be lasting. If it is not lasting, it can't be the truth!
Human beings tend to complicate things. Success is resulted from simplifying complicated things.
True simplification is not simply removal of unwanted stuff. Unwanted stuff can be the key elements, which must exist.
True simplification is seeing the simplicity in complicated things and then unfolding the simplicity accordingly.
Seeing is more important than removing.
中文翻譯:
如果某件事情是優秀和持久的,那一定是簡單的。
如果某件事是一個真理,那它一定很簡單。
如果不簡單,被影響的部分就會太多,基於持久。如果不持久的,就不可能是真相!
人傾向於把事情複雜化,成功是把複雜的事情簡單化。
真正的簡化,不是簡單地去除你不想要的部份,不想要的,可能是必須存在的關鍵元素。
真正的簡化是在復雜的事物中看出簡單,然後相應地展現簡單。
看到比去除更重要。
Keith
Explore, Exceed Excel
Updated: Nov 9 2021
Concepts 101 Part 10: Concept, Principle & Skill
Hi,
Behind every great skill, there is a Concept so that the skill can be adapted and adjusted according to the situation.
Even fools can understand that there is an underlying concept, but not everyone can comprehend the concept behind even he/she knows about the skill.
Then he/she can only use the skill at its surface level and can never be a master of it! (That's why I always do a long introduction at any of my programs so that everyone understand the concept before they learn something)
Concepts are difficult to be comprehended because they are abstract. To make the skill useful, smart originators of any skill will formulate Principles to guide the Skill users in applying.
When you learn a skill, at least clarify its Principles or you have not really learned the skill.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Systemic Typology: Concepts Behind Fate Reengineering Workshop 命運重整工程
( 新增中文翻譯於本文下半段 )
I don't like to transfer just skills and techniques in my programs. There are always underlying concepts behind all of my seminars and workshops.
I am going to present the concepts behind all my programs. Starting with the one I did recently...
Fate Reengineering Workshop is the Level 1 of my Systemic Personality Typology Series. This is a systemic approach of changing our own fate by means of being aware of our personality:
1. Personality is the collection of many faces of our ego. They are interactive. We seldom can see most of these faces. We need tools.
2. Personality Typologies are the tools. Each guides us to see our personality from a different perspective.
3. There is no good or bad personality.Your quality of life depends on how you cope with your super-systems, like your environment, your family, your social groups, etc.
4. Being aware of our personality and then adjusting and adapting with the bigger super-systems around us is an Intentional Process. We need to make a conscious decision to do so.
5. Awareness, Reality Check and Acceptance are the basis of effective adjustment and adaptation.
6. Adjustment and adaptation starts with stop manipulating others and ourselves.
7. People with Effective Personality (remember: no good or bad personality!) can grasp the Rising Opportunities and avoid the Falling Traps. Thus we can go up in our Fate Cycles.
8. People with Ineffective Personality can easily be affected by the Falling Traps to go down their Fate Cycles.
9. Effectiveness is about adaptability. Is your personality producing behaviours that create desirable results in your environment?
10. It is all about development. You are still you, but you can be bigger and better.
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Updated: Feb 14 2014
中譯 (加擴充): ( Sep 2 2026 )
小弟不喜歡在課程裡,只是傳授技巧與方法。因為在我所有的課程、講座與工作坊背後,都一直有一些更根本的理念。
所以,我想逐一說明這些課程背後的思想。
就從最近完成的這一個開始。
命運重整工程,是我的 Systemic Personality Typology Series 系統式人格類型系列 的 Level 1。
它是一種從系統角度出發的方法: 我們透過對自己人格的覺察,重新理解自己,也因此開始改變自己的命運。
背後的基本理念,可以整理成十點:
1. 性格,是我們眾多「自我面貌」的集合。
我們並不是只有一個固定的「我」,性格其實由許多不同的自我面向組成,而這些面向彼此互動;問題是,我們很少能夠看見其中大部分,所以,我們需要工具。
2. 性格類型,就是幫助我們看見自己的工具。
每一種性格型態學,都提供一個不同的觀看角度。它們並非要替我們貼上一個標籤,而是讓我們從不同方向,看見原本看不見的自己。
3. 沒有「好」或「壞」的性格。
性格本身沒有好壞之分,真正影響生活質素的,是我們如何面對那些比自己更大的「超系統」,例如環境、家庭、社交群體,以及我們身處的整個社會。
4. 覺察自己的性格,然後調整自己、適應周圍更大的系統,是一個有意識的過程。
這不是自動發生的,我們必須先看見自己,然後有意識地作出選擇,換句話說,這是一個 Intentional Process 意向性的過程。
5. 覺察、現實檢驗與接納,是有效調整與適應的基礎。
先看見自己,再看看現實究竟是甚麼,最後,接受眼前的現實。只有這樣,調整與適應才有可能真正發生。
6. 調整與適應,要從停止操控開始。
停止操控別人,也停止操控自己。很多時候,我們以為自己正在改變環境,其實只是在操控環境;以為自己正在改變自己,其實只是在強迫自己成為另一個樣子。真正的調整,首先是停止這種操控。
7. 擁有有效性格的人,能夠看見「上升的機會」,並避開「下墜的陷阱」。
記住,這並不是說人需要擁有一個「好的性格」,要的是一個更有效適應方式。因此,他便能夠把握 Rising Opportunities 上升的機會,避開 Falling Traps 下墜的陷阱。於是,我們便有可能在自己的 Fate Cycles 命運循環中向上提昇。
8. 擁有無效人格的人,則比較容易受到「下墜的陷阱」影響。
當我們無法有效地回應環境,便很容易被某些反覆出現的模式牽引,逐步向自己的命運循環下方走去,這就是小弟常就的「向下沉淪」了。
9. 所謂「有效」,其實就是適應能力。
問題不是你的性格好不好,而是你的性格所產生的行為,能否在你的環境中,帶來你所期望的結果? 這才是 Effectiveness 有效性真正要問的問題。
10. 而這一切,最終都是關於發展。
你仍然是你,並不是要把自己變成另一個人,而是在原來的自己之上,繼續發展,讓自己變得更大,也變得更好。