Monday, March 27, 2006

我的新書: 羸一場人生

Hi,

很高興小弟與劉遠章兄合作的第五本書-羸一場人生已於月初付梓!

這本書談的是...

有些人贏了事業,但輸了家庭﹔
有些人贏了金錢,但輸了健康﹔
有些人贏了自尊,但輸了親情﹔
有些人贏了掌聲,但輸了自我﹔
有些人贏了名譽,但輸了自由﹔
有些人贏了此刻,但輸了永恆﹔
有些人……………………………

可曾問過自己,到底贏了什麼﹖

「宇宙」( Cosmo )這個詞語,在古希臘文中是解作「秩序」和「規律」的意思,宇宙萬物都是依循已安排好的秩序規律運行。生命教練能夠助您「發現」其他人看不到的現存的自然規律,能夠助您「預見」即將發生的規律,然後「順應」這些規律,指引您更容易透視自己的生命,掌握自己的命運。

小弟正是擔當您的生命教練,讓您掌握最重要的助人技巧。如果藉本書某一個章節、某一段文字或故事來牽引儲存於您心內的記憶,令您再次發現這些可能早已遺忘了的規律,從而繼續思考關於生命的問題,這就是本書最大的成就﹗

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Remark: Updated on Oct 6 2011

Learning Attitude of People in Mainland China and Macau

Hi,

I started the first NLP Practitioner Program in Macau last year, and in Mainland China this year.

I am surprised and impressed by their participation and their attitude in learning. This might be one of the reasons of the rise of their economy.

They actively ask questions and involve in discussion. They think through what they learned even after classes. They are so eager to seek knowledge instead of just qualification.

You might argue that those who can aford the program are senior people, high-incomed group. Yes, nearly all of them are either senior management or business owners. This makes another point. It might be their attitude in learning that makes them senior and wealthy.

Those who are hungry for knowledge and really learn get good returns. This is just a fact of life.

This finding inspires me. Macau and those major cities in China will sooner or later get ahead of us. This can happen really fast if they keep on learning.

We, in Hong Kong also study very hard. But studying is different from learning. We seem to be interested in qualification more than in knowledge. Many people study, but not learn!

In the 60's, 70's and the 80's, the atmosphere for studying as not as keen as today. But the atmosphere for learning was much higher. People seeked learning opportunties everywhere. This created so many great, capable people but without much qualification. They laid down the foundation of our rapid growth in economy.

We can maintain or even enhance our competitive edge for another 10, 20 or more years in the future, if we keep the spirit of our fathers' and mothers' spirit of learning.

Learn but not just study!

Keith

Thursday, March 23, 2006

Are You a Human, an Animal, or a Plant?

Hi,

Strange headline? Yes!

But please consider it - are you behaving like a Human, an Animal or a Plant?

A Human can adapt to the changes in environment, while an Animal can only do some adjustments, and a Plant can just regulate itself hoping it can survive the changes.

How you respond to changes?

Being a Human can behave differently!

Keith

Monday, March 20, 2006

Learning from Life #56 - 60

Hi,

Here is another part of my "Learning from Life" Series.

56. Attacking others to get what you want will eventually being attacked back.

57. Things will go back to you, but can be with delays. (There is a 4 years' delay: Someone is hitted by the same gun he got by killing a good cop!)

58. Be careful when someone tells you that he/she is telling the truth!

59. Each step I take towards my goal will brings me nearer to it.

60. The best learning is learning myself by myself.


Keith

Friday, March 17, 2006

Difference Between Radiant & Expansionist Thinking

Hi,

In Session 1 of the Systemic Thinking Course a few days ago, one participant asked me the different between Radiant Thinking and Expansionist Thinking.

Radiant Thinking is the kind of thinking when we do mind-mapping. Expansionist Thinking is the basic philosophy of Systemic Thinking.

In both types of thinking, we can start from a single central point and then we think "out" from that single point. In Radiant Thinking, you first "see" the relationship between 2 points before you think of the second point.

In Expansionist Thinking, you do not care about the relationship first. You just "expand" your view to include more points. Then you see whether there are relationship amongst these points.

Which one is better? You decide yourself!

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Thursday, March 16, 2006

Hypnosis: Hypnosis is about Changes Part 3

Hi,

This is Part 3 of my article series of "Hypnosis is about Changes".

As mentioned in Part 1, hypnotherapist facilitating changes can be done at the Cause/Factors, Problem(s) or the Symptoms Levels. I talked about the Symptoms Level in Part 2. It is easiest at the Symptoms Level. We do it by giving Post-Hypnotic Suggestions. But the problem is it seldom really work!

In this Part 3, I am going to talk about the Sources Level.

Every problem has an ultimate cause, which can be physical, psychological or emotional. We cannot do much about the cause if it is physical and psychological. It is the job of medical doctors or clinical psychologists respectively. Being a hypnotherapist, we can work on emotional causes.

There can be a lot of causes for a problem. The best leverage is to work on the ultimate cause, or the original cause - the "Source" of the problem. So, this level is better called the "Source Level" to reduce mis-understandings.

The "Source" can be happened years ago, or just in last week. The "Source" can be some bad experiences in the past. When the "Source" is settled, the problem is then resolved automatically.

We can use all kinds of Regression Therapy, like Inner Regression (in Certified Hypnotherapist Level) or Age Regression (in Master Hypnotherapist Level). We assist the client to go back to the time of the "Source", re-view it and re-understand it. It is the new understandings that heal!

Regression Therapy can be a painful, but fruitful process. If you are not well-trained for it, keep out of it! One can hurt the client even more by mis-using these skills.

When clients get new understanding about the "Source", they changed the "old" beliefs related to the "Source" and then to the "Problem". Our old beliefs must be replaced with new beliefs before changes can be taken place. We cannot "not" believe/do something old, we must believe/do something new instead! So we always ask our clients for positive messages, new learnings or understandings upon completion of the regression therapy.

Skillful hypnotherapists will convert these positive messages, new learnings and understandings into Post-Hypnotic Suggestions.

Why clients can always get positive messages, new learnings and understandings after successful regression therapy? It is because there are some critical elements in any good regression therapies:

1. Clients reexperience the whole thing again. They release the repressed emotions so that they can "see" the experience clearer.

2. Clients have the chance to "disscoiate" from him/herself during the process, so that they can "see" the experience in a more objective perspective.

3. Clients can "see" what happened before, during and after the experience again. They have the time to "see" what they had missed when it happened in the past.

4. Clients can "go" into the minds of the related other people. This makes clients not only understand better the case, but the thinking of related people.

5. Therapists have a systematic process to request the clients for the positive messages, new learnings and understandings. This process assits clients for a better understanding.

Inner Communication is another tool for the "Source" Level. This enables the clients to finish the "unfinished" business with someone else in the past. This process works when the "Source" is an unfinished business. Of course, when you still angry with someone after years, this is an unfinished business.

I will discuss with you the "Factors Level" in Part 4 of this series later.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel


催眠是關於改變的 第三部分 – 起因 (Source)

這是我的 『催眠是關於改變的』系列,第三篇短文。

正如第一部分所提及,催眠治療師可以從起因/因素,問題或表徵層面上促進改變。我也在第二部分提及過,在表徵層面介入是比較容易,而運用的技術是後暗示。但這問題是很少機會能夠達到效果。

在第三部分,我會談談根源層面

每個 『問題』都有最根本的起因,它可以是關於物理,心理或是情感。如果起因是關於物理和心理上的問題,我們並不能介入,它是醫生或是臨床心理學家的工作;作為一個催眠治療師,我們可以研究情感上的起因。

『問題』可以有多個起因 (Causes),研究最根本或是最初的起因是最大的槓桿- 『問題』的根源。為了減少誤解,因此,這層面稱為『根源層面』。

『根源』(Sources),可以發生在很多年前,或只是幾個星期內;『根源』 (Sources),可以是過去的一些不好經歷。當『根源』已處理好,『問題』便會自動地被解決。

我們可以使用各種各樣的回溯治療,如『內在回溯』(註冊催眠治療師課程),『年齡回溯』(Master Hypnotherapist)。我們協助客戶回溯到『根源』的時期,再重新審視它,再重新理解,它就是治癒的新理解。回溯治療可以是相當辛苦的,但卻是卓有成效的過程,如果你不是訓練有素,最好敬而遠之!因為你可能誤用這個具有難度的技術,而傷害到客戶。

當客戶從『根源』中得到新的理解時,有關於『根源』和所導致的『問題』之『舊有信念』都能因此而改變。在改變發生前,我們需要用『新信念』來取代『舊信念』,我們不能『不』相信 / 『不』做一些原有的事情,我們必定是相信/做一些新的事來取代!因此,在回溯治療中,我們總會要求客戶一些正面訊息,新的體會和新的理解。

熟練的催眠治療師,會運用這些正面訊息,新體會和新理解作為催眠後暗示。

為甚麼成功的回溯治療後,客戶能夠從中得到正面訊息,新體會和新理解?
這是因為每個成功的回溯治療中,都有些關鍵性因素

1. 客戶再重新經歷整件事情:他們釋放了被壓抑的情緒,所以他們能清析地『審視』經歷。

2. 在過程中,客戶能夠『抽離』:因此,他們更能客觀,不偏不倚地『審視』這經歷。

3. 客戶能再經歷事情,來『審視』在事情發生之前,之間和之後的情景:他們可以『看到』過去所發生的事情,有甚麼是看漏了的。

4. 客戶能『進入』其他有關人等的思想(客戶心裡的內在次人格):這不僅令客戶更瞭解事件,同時又能瞭解相關人等的想法,(客戶之內在次人格思維,因而他能對自己獲取更充份的理解)

5. 治療師有一個有系統的過程,來要求客戶取得正面訊息,新體會和新理解:這個過程能協助客戶得到較大程度的理解。

當『根源』是一件未完成的事,運用內在溝通是為了解決『根源層面』的另一個工具,它能使客戶完成一些過去與某些人有關的『未完成』事件,(這也是客戶的內在次人格),當你在事過境遷以後,你仍在惱怒某人,這就可能是一件未完成事件。

我將會與你在這系列中的第四部分,談論『因素層面』。

Sunday, March 12, 2006

Personal Development: Using "Help" Command in Life

Hi,

I wrote the "Using DOS to Help You Think" article a few days ago. Quite some people emailed me for more. Here is my another thought:

We can always ask for help, if we are in need. But we must know how to do so before you get the "right" help.

In DOS, when you type in "HELP" in the command line, it returns with the explanation of ALL the commands. If you do not know where you are, these "Helps" are useless!

When asking for help, know where you are first. Then you can easily selected from the advises of others. People gives you various kinds of advises, some are even contradictory, because they are standing in different "locations" of your problem.

Not what you want, but where you are, are more important when asking and evaluating for advises!

Keith

Thursday, March 09, 2006

Using DOS to Help You Think

Hi,

DOS is the first operating system for PC. It goes back all the way to the 80's. I always think DOS is the best operating system for PC. It is fast as it is nearest to the sourcecode.

Thinking is like computing. You can make use of the DOS commands to help you think. Here are some great "commands" for your mind:

1. DELETE: Erase what is not neccessary.

2. CLS: Clear the screen and start thinking again, if you are too confused.

3. COMP: Compare how others doing it. You always get some insights, no matter others is doing great or bad.

4. COPY: Copy what's working. You can copy from your past or from others. Always COMP before COPY, or you might copy something useless or outdated.

5. HELP: Seek help from others if you are still stuck!

Keith

Sunday, March 05, 2006

Creativity: 1,499 New Ideas in 2 Hours

Hi,

I conducted the first session of the Think-Tank 2006 Program in last Wednesday. My goal is to generate a total of 1,999 ideas in 3 2-Hours sessions this year.

But just in our first session, we produced 1,499 ideas, in 2 hours, by 64 participants. That is 23.4 ideas per person. By the way, they did all that just in 50 minutes. We were doing de-briefing in the the rest of the time. Don't you think that this is a encouraging results!

There are 2 findings in our first session:

1. Treat every idea a seperate idea. This prevents limitation of your thoughts from the previous ideas.

2. We need triggers for new ideas. Ideas are not coming out of nothing.

We are going to have our second session on July 5 2006. If you want to join us, email me at keithto@excelcentre.net so that I can remind you in June.

Why do I organize these free sessions?

I believe that creativity can only be possible when we actually stretch our creativity muscles!

Keith

Wednesday, March 01, 2006

Some Learning from Class of NLP Essentials 2006 Module 1

Hi,

I have just done the NLP Essentials 2006 Program Module 1 yesterday's evening. Just like every other time in all of my trainings I delivered, I learned from our classmates. Here are some inspiring ones I gained in this module:

1. Success is NOT being Happy. Being happy is the result of success.

2. Both adding good stuff and/or removing bad stuff can help.

3. Bad experience can be composed of many, many individual incidences. This makes them so difficult to change. But when you try to name all of the incidences, you just can't tell so many. We sometimes over-estimate our bad experiences!

4. In Chinese, the word "體驗" implies using our 'Body" to "Experiment". That means we must act to learn. But so many of us is not doing "體驗", but just "睇驗". We just want to watch to learn!

5. When you want something, at least ask for it! I don't mean that we should be lazy by doing nothing. But asking is also a kind of doing.


Keith
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