Hi,
協助受者發現正面訊息的過程，是我們的SOBER Hypnotherapy系統的獨特和核心部份，亦是我們的方法與別不同之處；如果您忽略了這個重要過程，您將使您的進行的治療效果遠遠失色，您浪費了您和您的受者的時間和努力。
由於她是那麼很重要的，我曾於催眠治療師課程中，詳細地解釋了這個過程，以下是那天我的講解的一個簡單概要。
我們現在的難題，並不是由以前的某人或某事直接地引起的，它是由於某些過去事件，發展出一些信念所引致的。舉一個簡化了的例子，當您那時只得十歲，您在某次唱歌比賽中，面對眾人時感覺十分恐懼，您不自覺地獲取了對『面對公眾是恐佈的』這種信念，因此，當您現在已經是30歲了，您仍然恐懼於眾人面前講話。
在我們SOBER系統下，受者在催眠狀態期間，發現正面訊息的過程，是在您協助他回顧他的過去事件、關係和信念之後的一個內心整合過程，他在回顧之後，對事情獲取了新的理解，並且通過描述出來，他的理解得以具體化，這些具體正面的訊息，成為了他新的信念；我們不能通過不再相信某事，來直接刪除我們的舊信念，但是我們卻能用新的信念，取代原有的信念！
正面訊息中的『正面』，並非我們日常所指的樂觀、合乎道德、合乎操守的，甚至它並不需要是『好』的；判斷受者新的理解是否好壞，既不是我們的工作，也不是我們能力所及的；我不是說樂觀、合乎道德、合乎操守或者『好』的信念並不重要，只是我們不應該硬把我們自己的評斷，放諸於我們的治療對象身上！
一個訊息是正面的，它必須符合以下3個標準：
1. 可執行的 Actionable：否則受者根本不能做任何事情，來改變他的情況；此外，沒有行動，亦因而沒有結果，受者便不能進一步地具體化他們新的信念。(記得我們什麼時候使用『即係？』這條問題？)
2. 安全的 Safe：對客戶和其他人，這些新的信念沒有任何潛在危險。(記得我們什麼時候使用『因為？』這條問題？)
3. 沒有局限的 Without Limitation：發現新的信念的目的，是為了受者開放更多的可能性，減少限制他們，難題是受者給自己在思想和行動的局限。(記得我們什麼時候使用『因為？』這條問題？)
當3個標準均符合時，新的信念，與及因而引起的新的行動，就可能是更加現實的！
The Process of Positive Messages is very unique and core part of our system of SOBER Hypnotherapy. If you miss this process, you will make your therapy far, far less effective. You waste your and your client's time and effort.
As it is so important, I explained the process in more details in my recent SOBER Therapy Module of the Certified Hypnotherapist Program. Below is a brief summary of what I had explained that day.
It is not someone in the past or something happened in the past directly causes us problem now. It is the beliefs that developed out of that past event that cause us troubles. For example, you was so fear during a singing contest when you were 10. You unconsciously gained a belief of "public presentation is something horrible". So when you are now already 30, you fear much about speaking in front of people.
In our SOBER System, the Positive Messages Process is the consolidation process after you review your past event, relationship and beliefs during hypnosis. You gain new understanding after the review and you make your new understanding concrete through verbalizing them out. These concrete positive messages become your new beliefs. We can't just delete our old beliefs by not believing in something, but we can only replace the old beliefs with new ones. You believe in something else instead!
Positive Messages are not messages that are "positive" in general sense. It does not need to be optimistic, moral, ethical or even be good. It is not our job and we can't judge the content of our clients' new understanding. I am not saying that being optimistic, moral, ethical or good is not important. But we should not push our own judgement towards our clients!
To be positive, a message must meet the following 3 criteria:
1. Actionable. Or the client can't do anything about it to change his/her situation. Furthermore, without actions (thus without results), clients can't further solidify their new beliefs. (Remember our use of 即係?)
2. Safe. There is no potential danger (to the clients and others) in the message. (Remember our use of 因為?)
3. Without Limitation. The new beliefs are opening up possibilities for the clients, not further limiting them. In hypnosis, a problem is a limitation of client's thinking and actions. (Remember our use of 因為?)
When all 3 criteria are met, the new beliefs (and thus the new actions generated) could be more realistic!
Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Updated with Chinese Translation: Feb 8 2009
