Tuesday, June 30, 2009

我的觀點: 誰說專家就可信?!

Hi,

昨天在某大型連鎖藥店(那一家?不是屈臣氏便是萬寧吧!)買東西,聽見一名顧客詢問駐店的藥劑師:砂眼可以用什麼眼藥水?

藥劑師答道:可以用人造淚水把它沖出來。

小弟聽後大吃一驚,砂眼是經由病毒傳播的高傳染性眼疾,這也可以沖出來?!

那位30來歲的藥劑師,可能從未聽過這個曾流行於數十年前的疾病,更誤聽為『吹沙入眼』吧!如果那為朋友真的是患上砂眼,又相信專家所言,購買毫無藥效的人造淚水,試圖把它沖出來,那就躭誤病情了。

專家意見只是多種資訊來源之一,切勿當作唯一無可置疑的結論,專家意見也可以主觀的,就算是客觀,也可以不準確

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Monday, June 29, 2009

Concepts 101 Part 41: 主觀

Hi,

昨天剛完成了本系列的第四十篇-客觀,本來不打算這麼快就下筆寫第四十一篇,但讀者 CC 君於上篇提出了的問題,不清楚說明客觀的對比-主觀,似乎難於充份地回答他的問題。

查客觀、主觀二詞,皆來自外語,雖晉朝華陽國志曾有『客觀』一詞出現,但該詞解作外觀,非現今人所說的客觀也。

所謂的客觀,源自 Objective 一字,意即把觀察對象當作物體 Object 來看,獨立於思維及觀察者之外;極致的客觀,也就是 NLP 所指的 Meta 了。

至於主觀,明顯地是來自 Subjective 一字,那是把觀察對象,連結到觀察者的思維內,對該觀察對象的認知,而不是把它當作一件獨立物體,觀察者本身就是 Subjective 一字中的 Subject 了;真正的主觀,也就是 NLP 所指的第一位置聯繫 (First Position, Associated)了。

作為人類,我們差不多全部時間也是在主觀,試問誰人能真正的把對人事物的想法人事物本身分開呢?

主觀帶來的問題,我想無需在此多述 (這也是一個主觀的想法),但主觀並非只會帶來問題,因為主觀給予人直接感受,推動力亦由此而起。

主觀容易客觀難,要做到客觀,就必須找出支持對某人事物觀察的結論的證據了,為什麼呢?

證據,並非另一個想法,而是一件存在於現實世界的物體 (Object),一個想法如果是由另一個想法來證明的,肯定那是主觀了,因為想法本身就是主觀的結果;但如果能有證據,那就證明了觀察者觀察的對象是物體,那就開始了客觀的觀察了。

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Updated: Apr 12 2016

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Announcement: 盲點心理學第三版即將推出!

Hi,

很幸運地,亦很感激各位朋友的支持,小弟與劉遠章兄合著的新書-盲點心理學,於本年四月出版後,不到一個月,便已加印第二版,而現在第三版亦在付印中!

最初只打算把於四月份內的銷售版稅,捐助聖雅各褔群會的食物銀行服務,後改為第一版全數捐出,到最後是把第一及第二版的也都捐了;現在於聖雅各褔群會內,尚僅餘數十本第二版存貨,有興趣的朋友,可直接向聖雅各購買,既可享受閱讀樂趣,也可同時助人,一舉兩得!(聽說部份書店仍有一點點的存貨呢!)

不是小弟與劉兄特別慷慨,而是反正版稅是還未到手的身外物,而且我們也不是靠寫作維生,因此沒有了也不覺怎樣肉痛而矣!(拿我們銀包內的錢,可能我們會跟人家死過!)

好了,說了這麼久,究竟這本書是關於什麼的呢?

當局者迷,旁觀者清?因為我們正在看別的!

看見看不見的!

人們比較相信自己希望是真的事物。(培根)

答案不是會不會,答案是你能不能看得到。(蘇格拉底)

還有一個更大的世界!

大腦確實將很多的判斷都交給情緒來決定。(Cordelia Fine)

知之為知之,不知為不知,是知也。(論語)

如果說我看得比人遠,那是因為我是站在巨人的肩上。(牛頓)

博學之、審問之、慎思之、明辨之、篤行之。(中庸)

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

Coaching: Coaching is about Discovery Part 6 - Blindspots Formation Mechanisms

Hi,

This is Part 6 of this Coaching is about Discovery Series.

In this article, we are going to discuss various mechanisms of our mental blindspots formation.

Blindspots are the ideas/thoughts/perceptions which situated out of our current awareness. They are not just anything that we do not know. They are what we do not know we do not know. This double-unawareness paralyzes our urge to search for extra information.

What causes these Double-Unawareness? There are 5 major causes.

1. Reacting instead of Responding. When we are reacting to the situation, we are not using the most sophisticated part of our brain, the neo-cortex, which is responsible for our rational thinking. We react from the more primitive reptilian brain and the limbus brain. We are reacting to our fear, anger and other emotions. We are not rational at all!

2. Missing Information. There are so much information out there. We cannot process all the information. If the world is as slow as in the far past, we can absorb and handle them bit by bit. However, we do not have such luxury in today's super-fast paced, ever-changing world. The missed information becomes our blindspots.

3. False Assumptions. What helps us deciding taking in what information and discarding the others? Our assumptions (or our Filters in NLP)! Assumption and knowledge refers to the same thing. The only difference is the former is not matching the Reality while the latter one is. Both are assisting us to make faster decisions while the former causes us problems and the latter leads us to solutions.

4. The Bigger World. Everything is inter-related. There is no such thing as "individual case". People, scenarios and things are affecting each others. It is difficult to see the Bigger Picture and it is even impossible to see the Whole Picture. Everything outside our current perceived picture is our blindspots!

5. The World is Changing. No matter the speed is slow in the past or fast in today, the world is changing! We are always just in one single point in time. It is too easy to forget or to miss in all other points in the past. It is even more impossible to consider accurately the future. These are the blindspots in the 4th dimension.

A coach's job is to encourage awareness of clients' blindspots. The more they can perceive and consider, the better will be their decisions.

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

P.S.
You can find more of my ideas on blindspots from my new book, 盲點心理學 (co-authored with John Lau, in Chinese)

Saturday, June 27, 2009

NLP: 中國古代的 Dissociation 與 Meta 理論?!

Hi,

中國古代已有 NLP 的理論?當然,她們比 NLP 早了很多年出生呢!

Dissociation 與 Meta,俱是抽離於己身之外,只是前者還是自己本身後者則不用本人身份來看事物。

中國禪宗典藉『景德傳燈錄』記載的『騎牛覓牛』一語,指人已騎著牛,卻在找牛,意即身在其內,當然找不著;自己在難題中找答案,當然事倍功半,甚至連自己身在難題中也懵然不知,概因身在其中也。這個道理早在一千二百多年前,中國禪宗大師大安禪師早已公諸於世。

一千二百多年前還未算早,『詩經』中的『伐柯伐柯其則不遠』,成詩於周朝,距今達三千多年!『伐柯伐柯,其則不遠』,指手裡已經拿著斧柄,來伐木作斧柄;意即所求的已在手,但卻不知道,為什麼呢?身在其中也

要看到,就先走下牛,就先放下柯,抽離於外,自會看到!

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel

P.S. NLP 的核心理念,其實就是叫人身在其外,自能看清。

P.P.S. 教練學 Coaching 不約而同的助人身處情況之外,以求看到更多更準。

Updated: Jul 24 2014

Concepts 101 Part 40: 客觀

Hi,

世上究竟有沒有真正的『客觀』呢?

如果你認為自己看某事物是客觀時,你是怎樣知道的呢?如果沒有任何證據,那就證明那不是客觀,而是主觀

有證據又如何?那你又憑什麼認定那個證據就能證明呢?因為另有證據證明先前的證據是合理的證據!

那你又憑什麼認定這個證據就能證明『先前的證據是合理的證據』呢?除非你又再另有證據證明這個證據又再是合理的證據!

聰明的朋友很明顯已知道,我的問題可以不斷再追問下去,永無止境!那又說明了什麼呢?世上沒有真正的客觀只是程度不同的客觀而矣

那小弟這篇爛文又是否『真正的客觀』呢?世上那來『真正的客觀』!

既然如此,何苦執著!

Keith
Explore, Exceed & Excel
Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...