Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Concepts 101 Part 7: Respond & React 回應與反應

Hi,

This is Part 7 of the Concepts 101 Series.

In our life, we can respond or react to something happened, but we usually react rather than respond. What is "respond" and what is "react"?

From the dictionary, Respond is to answer or to reply, while React is to return an impulse or to resist.

When something happened, we react when we do something without thinking. What we do is simply our instincts - automatic, instant, emotional for the goal of survival. However, when we respond, we think before act. We choose not to allow our instinctive, primitive brain to take over our human, logical brain to react. We understand in modern life, there are not too many incidents that can threaten our lives. We do not need to react to survive.

We react when we consider the situation is beyond our control. We respond when we decide that we can do something to the situation. This is a difference between to surrender your input or to choose the suitable input. This is also a difference between surrendering your control and regaining control of the situation and yourself.

You can also choose to answer, to explore, to accept, to acknowledge, to negotiate, etc. when responding. Reacting limits yourself to only one choice, while Responding opens up more choices!


中文翻譯

這是 Concept 101 系列的第 7 部分。

在日常生活中,對事情的發生,我們可以回應 Respond,又或反應 React,但通常也是反應居多。

什麼是『回應』,什麼是『反應』呢?

從字典中看到,『回應』是回覆的意思,而『反應』則是指是以衝動或抗拒來還擊。

有事發生時,不假思索即時行動,便是『反應』;我們所做的,只是反映著我們的本能-自動,即時,求生存的情緒化活動;整個過程,交由快速卻不假思索的中腦負責。

先想後做,就是『回應』,我們選擇不讓我們的本能,選擇不讓那個原始的中腦,來接管我們具人性,兼且邏輯的大腦來應付。我們理解在現代社會中,根本不會有什麼危險,能時刻威脅到我們的生存,因此,我們並不需要倚靠『反應』來求生。

我們『反應』,因為我們原始中腦認為,面對的情況是我們無法控制的;我們『回應』,因為我們邏輯大腦決定,我們其實可以做一些合理的事情,應對情況,這是放棄控制重掌控制的差異。

『回應』時,你可選擇去解答、去探索、去接受、去承認、去談判;『反應』局限自己只得一個選擇,『回應』卻能開闢更多的選擇!

多年來,小弟積極提倡的 NLP教練,其共通根本目的,便是讓人有意識地選擇『回應』

Keith
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