Tuesday, March 27, 2007

NLP: Article Written Years Ago - Dissociation for Awareness

Hi,

This is my 6th re-published article on NLP that I have written years ago.

Dissociation for Awareness

This is a story about a prisoner.

The prisoner was so unhappy after sending to the prison that he refused to go out of his cell. Later he was too depressed and becoming very sick. He was forced out of his cell to the clinic.

On the way, he discovered the prison was surrounded by mountains. The sky is so blue and the mountain is so green. He wondered why he never aware of such beauties.

His life changed dramatically. He was still a prisoner, but he took a totally different attitude. He studied hard for not just one, but three college degrees, the bachelor, master and doctor within
his 10 years of imprisonment. He is now a very successful therapist helping lots of people day after day.

Let me explain a bit further. The cell is your mind. If you lock yourself inside your own cell, you can see nothing but the walls of your own prison. You can't see above, below and around yourself. You can aware of nothing, opportunities and threats.

Until you open the door (your mind?) and walk out of your cell, you then can have a complete view.

In NLP, we use dissociation to gain that awareness. When you are associated, you see from your own eyes, hear from your own ears. You can easily feel stuck. You lock yourself inside your own prison. By dissociation, you detach yourself from your body and see things in a much larger view.

When you feel yourself mentally stuck, do something different physically. We believe our mind and body are inter-linked. Shake your head and look around. Notice where you are. Notice every details in the room, on the desk, outside the windows, etc. You gradually drift yourself to the dissociated state where awareness appears.

When you are stuck with yourself or others, stand back and observe yourself and others. By doing this, you physically and mentally detach yourself.

Of course, if you find something interest or exciting, do associate with it and enjoy. It is really sad to detach from happiness while associate with frustration and disappointment.

(Keith 2007's Remark: Excel might be coming from "Ex" & "Cell", "Ex" = "out of")


以抽離來覺察

這是關於一個囚犯的故事。

囚犯在送去監獄以後,他感覺很不快樂,他拒絕離開自己的牢房,稍後,他變得消沉,並因此而得病,他被迫送到他牢房外面的診所。

在途中,他發現監獄是被山所包圍,天空是很藍的,山是很綠的,他驚訝為什麼他從不意識到這樣的美麗。

他的生命戲劇性地改變了,他當然還是一個囚犯,但是他以另一種完全不同的態度去生活。他拼命地學習,在他的十年牢獄生涯裡,他取得不只一個,而是三個大學學位,學士、碩士和博士學位,他現在是很成功的臨床心理學家,日復一日地幫助很多很多人。

讓我進一步說明一下,牢房就是你自己的思維,如果你把自己鎖在你的自己的思想牢房裡面,你只會看見你自己的監獄中的墻壁,你不能看到上面、下面及你的週遭,你不能察覺到什麼-機會和威脅。

直到你打開門(你的頭腦?),離開你的牢房,你才可以看到一幅完整的景象。在 NLP 中,我們使用抽離 (Dissociation)來獲取這種覺察,當你在聯繫 (Association)時,你從你自己的眼睛看事物,你從你的耳朵聽東西,你很容易就被膠著,動彈不得,你把自己鎖在自己的思想監獄裡面。通過抽離,你好像從自己的身體分離出去,以一個更大的角度看待事物。

當你心裡感覺到自己卡住時,你可以做一些不同的事情,如改變姿勢,我們相信我們的思維與我們的身體是相互連結的。搖搖你的頭,四處張望,刻意察覺自己身在何方,察覺週圍環境的每一細節,如察覺窗外的情況,察覺在桌子上的東西等等,讓自己逐漸抽離出來。

當你發覺自己膠著時,想像自己退後一步,觀察自己和他人,透過這樣做,你身心均從自己中抽離出來。當然,如果你發現一些有趣的事情,你應聯繫並好好享受其中樂趣,抽離快樂但卻聯繫困惑和失望是十分令人悲傷的。


Keith To
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